I want to get married by the church, I'm catholic and mexican. I dont know what goes into doing so. What does the priest ask of u? I dont go to church every Sunday and I dont belong to a specific church but i do know what church i want to get married in but I heard the priest is very hard. Help!!!!!!!
2007-03-06 06:47:51 · 9 answers · asked by Liz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
We have been together for 8yrs so I really dont think we need counseling. We have also lived together for three and have a 4 yr old son.
2007-03-06 06:54:47 · update #1
If you want to be married in the Catholic church you MUST attend pre-cana classes. It doesn't matter how long you have been together. If you don't want to go to the classes, which are extremely useful by the way, forget about the church. They will not do it. The first step would be to call the office and find out if the church is even available. There will be a fee, it depends upon the individual church to set it though. Ours was only $40. We weren't members of that particular church, mostly due to moving around from college, but his family was. They may require you to become a member of at least your local church. If you fiance is not Catholic you will have to sign a form promising to raise your children as Catholic. They won't care if you live together or already have kids. There were several couples at our pre-cana classes like that.
Just call the office of the church you picked to start the process.
2007-03-06 08:32:28 · answer #1 · answered by rosekm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the church you want to be married in and ask what you have to do to be married there.
I'm told that if you're catholic you have to jump through a billion hoops to be married, no matter how long you've been together. And, God forbid, you live together as they might refuse to marry you at all.
You'll probably have to at least be a member of some catholic church before they'll even consider marrying you in a different catholic church.
2007-03-06 15:42:35 · answer #2 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to contact someone from the Church first and they will ask you basic questions like when you want the wedding, your names, who will be witnesses etc. Then you have to go to some marriage classes and find out what your compatibility is. You really don't have to do that much, just go to the priest and find out.
2007-03-06 14:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by Beffy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If all you want is a big wedding, rent a really nice place and blow your money there. Don't disgrace teh catholic Church by using the church to have your dream wedding.
2007-03-06 19:58:47 · answer #4 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should in your situation. You aren't exactly very Catholic since you haven't been attending church, you have been shacking up with a guy and you have kids out of wedlock.
Just go down to the courthouse or get a jp or something. Just get married finally for the sake of your children.
2007-03-06 16:52:06 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You have to ask the priest. They'll have the requirements for you. Don't worry, the inquisition has ended, they won't beat you up. They'll just tell you what they expect, and you either toe their line or go somewhere else.
2007-03-06 14:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wont know for sure until you actually sit down with the priest and talk to him...sometimes they actually suggest couples counseling!!
2007-03-06 14:51:48 · answer #7 · answered by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uuuuhhhh find a church you like, talk to priest, join the church, plan wedding
2007-03-06 14:51:58 · answer #8 · answered by twotaters 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i got married in the church on our 5th anv. they will have you take a class and then if he feels you will make it he will marry you. by the way my husband is Mexican American so good luck.
2007-03-06 14:52:10 · answer #9 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋