having your spouse compliment you on your looks, saying how beautiful you look and how nice your hair is and your beautiful smile, what a nice body you have etc OR would you rather have a man that is a good communicator and listener, always looking for your best interest, helping you in situations physically and mentally good gifts that you need and want (expensive ones at that)and does everything in his power for you.
Only pick one,not both and dont say it should be a compromise of both.
what is more important to women the complimenter or the one who shows his love?
I could be just plain ugly,fat and stupid and fooling myself, but even when I looked my best 5'8 1/2 inches at 140# he never complimented me then either and I can understand why he doesnt now because I have put some weight on and may not be attractive to him anymore,because I know he knows how to compliment because he compliments others when they look good, so I get the doer, but I guess at least he shows his love some wa
2007-03-06 06:44:31 · 21 answers · asked by foxyraley 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Other - Skin & Body
I would rather my husband SHOW his love by doing for me & supporting me & being there for me. Words are meaningless unless there are actions behind them to back the words up.
A husband can say how pretty you are and that he loves you while sitting on his **** and not doing a damn thing for you.
I would much rather have the second.
2007-03-06 06:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by halloweenbride97 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the hell do I need/want expensive gifts from someone? What makes you think price is a sign of affection? I could love someone to death and MAKE them something more meaningful that expensive junk...
Based on the descriptions you gave, I'd rather be alone. If there is no option for a guy who's in between, its not worth it to me.
(Right now, I'm with my perfect man, and he's a mix of the people you describe. He listens, communicates well, cares for me and my passions/interests, he's more than helpful with everything and he compliments me, my looks, my personality. He's a mix of the two and if he were any other way, I would be sad)
2007-03-06 07:00:16 · answer #2 · answered by 4eyed zombie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would rather have the man that is a good communicator and listener, always looking for your best interest, helping you in situations physically and mentally good gifts that you need and want (expensive ones at that)and does everything in his power for you....but maybe you should tell your guy that you want to get complimented.... everyone needs to hear their "other" say good things about them...
2007-03-06 08:12:57 · answer #3 · answered by *Isabella's Mommy 7/23/11* <3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The second one definitely. It shows he loves you for your personality and not your looks. Even if he doesn't compliment you it doesn't mean he doesn't like your looks - he could just think he doesn't need to or that it's not important to you. Also, constant compliments would mean each compliment is worth far less than the occasional really valuable compliment. And wouldn't you rather have a really interesting guy than a boring one who has nothing to say but compliment about your looks? The second one sounds much more caring.
2007-03-06 07:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man that is a good communicator and listener, always looking for your best interest, helping you in situations physically and mentally good gifts that you need and want (expensive ones at that)and does everything in his power for you.
Hands down!
2007-03-06 06:52:33 · answer #5 · answered by Maudie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that a man who is always looking out for your best interests, truly listens, and is a good communicator would realize that you need compliments.
2007-03-06 06:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I want to feel he loves me, not just attracted to me. Talking to me getting to know me, what I like and don't like.
I am more satisfied with deep conversation and doing fun then anything else.
He could just sit there and do nothing all day long, no fun, no games and just be in aww everytime I enter the room. BORING. Who cares about looks, they only last until gravity sets in.
You got to think whats really important. besides if you can't communicate with someone or have fun with them, it doesn't matter how good looking you are.
2007-03-06 06:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by 2shay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i couldn't live without either. i'd separate myself from the person..it's hard to think that he never compliments you if he is so great else wise. maybe you're asking for too much and you don't see that he actually is complimenting you. And if he is such a great communicator, why doesn't he know that you have an issue with his lack of comments?
2007-03-07 11:21:21 · answer #8 · answered by gorgeousbabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most importantly....that he loves you and shows it. but at the same time if he truly loves you, he would want u to be happy and feel attractive all the time. so why isnt he complimenting you? dont stress yourself out, you sound like your a healthy weight. but this is what i honestly do to feel attractive...workout! seriously though it makes you feel soo good, and its not about the weight its about feeling good. if not maybe you should communicate with you husband and tell him what you need. you shouldnt feel stupid cause he sounds like he loves you. i hope everything works out.
2007-03-06 06:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by psu143 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one who shows his love no contest. Compliments are only good if they DON'T say it all the time. (Been happily married to my best friend for 21 years this month. He is 8 yrs younger than me and he only says it when he feels it.)
2007-03-06 07:27:38 · answer #10 · answered by a_redhead1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋