I've been voted Bridezilla by my best friends... because I fired them from their postions in the wedding. I have three women that I consider to be my very best friends... and origionally I had asked them to be bridesmaids but every time we all get together, these friends of mine who have absolutely nothing in common with each other except for the friendships they share with me... are always at each others' necks. They bicker about everything and they act ungrateful for anything... I'm just tired and I still have til July 14th to go. So, I fired them from their duties and told them I'd just rather them sit as our guests.
Is this really considered a bridezilla move? Am I asking to much for them to "just try" to get along for this occassion? Am I wrong for asking them to step down... which is the hardest thing I've ever done by the way?... or should I stick to my guns and let them be my friends as our guests. A little help here... please.
2007-03-06 06:42:04 · 19 answers · asked by doormouse72 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The way I see it...and last time you checked...this is YOUR wedding. Having 3 very different friends would be a difficult feat for anyone. However, they still have one common...YOU! They should be doing everything in their power to give you the wedding of your dreams, not complaining and creating issues for you.
As cheesy as this may sound, you need to sit them down as a group. You talk, they listen. You need to lay down the law and make sure they understand their individual roles and that each role directly helps you. Being a bridesmaid for you, their close friend, should be perceived as an honor and something they are wanting to do for you. Bottomline is this...The most important part about all of this is to keep you happy and calm. If they can't accept that, then it proves the low level of friendship they are willing to give you!
I wish you good luck and stay strong! Have a gorgeous wedding...
2007-03-06 06:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's kinda Bridezilla to fire your bridesmaids, even if they are being ManicMaids by bickering all time.
You should have given them fair warning first, and told them that thier bickering was stressing you out, and if they couldn't get along, you'd have to ask them to all step down as bridesmaid.
Tell them you're sorry for jumping the gun, but you felt their behavior was more than you could handle at the time. Ask them if they think they can handle being bridemaids and treating each other politely from now on. Give them a clear list of all your expectations, and ask them if they honestly feel they can fulfill those expectations. Give them very separate duties, and keep them apart as much as possible.
2007-03-06 14:56:44 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, well maybe we both are, but if people can't make up there stupids minds and get long why risk being upset by them I am getting married on March 31st and we have had 3 best men now I am done either show up or not it's ridiculous we asked these people to be in the wedding a year ago. Now all of a sudden they can't afford a suit of a tank of gas to drive an hour to the wedding its very frustrating.
2007-03-06 16:32:29 · answer #3 · answered by grizzliesgurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've done the most sensible thing and I would definitely not call the bridezilla police on you. If they can't be adults enough to get along for the short period of time it takes to pick a dress, plan a shower, etc, then you have no faith that they'll behave themselves and not ruin your wedding day. I'd just assume walk down the isle all by my lonesome than have to deal with their high school behavior. Good luck.
2007-03-06 14:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that firing them was a little harsh, BUT they should have tried harder to get along. I as in a wedding last June where I only knew two people... the bride and one other bridesmaid. We didn't bicker or anything of the such. We didn't talk all that much, but we did our jobs and supported the bride. I hope this helps, but I suggest that you talk to them again... and tell them why you made the decision you made.
2007-03-07 04:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you're being a bridezilla, after all it is your wedding and they should be trying to make things less stressful for you at this moment. But rather than meet up with them all together, why not meet up with them one on one and assign each one a task for them to help you in. this way they're still apart of the wedding, they're helping you out, and best of all they don't have to work together. which means more work done and less stressful bickering for you. i hope you get things worked out, afterall they're your best friends for a reason. and if they truely want you to have a blessed day they will put aside their feelings for one another and do as they're asked in order for you to have the beautiful wedding you deserve.
2007-03-06 14:57:13 · answer #6 · answered by ~*~ThE OnE AnD OnLy PuTiE~*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding honey, If they are making such a stressfull thing even more stressfull for you than I don't see a problem with making things a little easier for your self. Try having one friend come with you to help you pick out flower arrangments one day and have another help you with seating another day. You don't want to loose your friends over it. Just keep your friends separated and don't let the others comment on or talk you out of another friends task. As a matter of fact do not even let the others know about each persons task. HOPE THIS HELPED AND GOOD LUCK SWEETIE!
2007-03-06 14:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by stick_e_bun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should have thought about what they have in common before you brought them in your wedding. A wedding is a very intimate thing and those in your party should at least know each other to be able to get along.
I say get over yourself and let things happen. If the fired parties are ok with being fired then so be it.
2007-03-06 14:46:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well....they should try to be nice. But you did do a very bridezilla thing. Why do they have to get together so often? The bridesmaids don't need to be together for anything other than the rehearsal, shower, and wedding.
2007-03-06 14:55:15 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can keep them in your court, just strip them of their duties or hand it off to someone that can handle it. That is a horrible situation to be in. If they were horrible, you are justified. Ask someone that is impartial with all the details if you want an honest opinion. Just remember, there will always be issues, the point is you are officially starting your life with someone and to enjoy each moments. Oh, and it all will not be perfect regardless of the planning but if it is fun, it is well worth it.
2007-03-06 14:47:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋