I've been voted Bridezilla by my best friends... because I fired them from their postions in the wedding. I have three women that I consider to be my very best friends... and origionally I had asked them to be bridesmaids but every time we all get together, these friends of mine who have absolutely nothing in common with each other except for the friendships they share with me... are always at each others' necks. They bicker about everything and they act ungrateful for anything... I'm just tired and I still have til July 14th to go. So, I fired them from their duties and told them I'd just rather them sit as our guests.
Is this really considered a bridezilla move? Am I asking to much for them to "just try" to get along for this occassion? Am I wrong for asking them to step down... which is the hardest thing I've ever done by the way?... or should I stick to my guns and let them be my friends as our guests. A little help here... please.
2007-03-06 06:40:55 · 13 answers · asked by doormouse72 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is your day. And if they were really acting like children and couldn't even pretend to get along, then yes. You had every right to "fire" them. Stand up for yourself. As long as you're not acting like the world shall bow at your feet, you're not a "bridezilla." Your friends should be able to act like adults and understand that they're all very special and important to you in their own special way. You're not asking them to be best friends, you just wanted them to not behave like children. I commend you for doing what you did. You're entitled to have your dream wedding, just like every girl. We've dreamed about that day for years. It's not fair for them to be selfish and put you in that situation. And if they can't understand that, then what kind of friends are they? If they're truly your friends, they will get over it, and hopefully realize the misery they put you through. Congratulations and I hope you have your dream wedding.
2007-03-06 06:51:13 · answer #1 · answered by Brensgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your Bridezilla! Just because your friends don't have anything in common doesn't mean that they shouldn't get along for your sake. It's your wedding and if they are truly your friends, they would play nice and help you any way they can. I personally have thought about telling my best friend that I don't want her to be my Maid oh Honor anymore because every time I ask her to help me with something for the wedding, she's too busy. My other bridesmaids have helped me more than she has and she's my best friend. Oh, and did I mention, she's the only single on in the bunch, she should have more time on her hands than any of us. But back to your problem, I have 4 bridesmaids, 2 are my fiance's sister and cousin and 1 is my roommate from college and the other is my best friend. They don't hardly know each, except for he sister and cousin, but they all get along fine with each other when we get together for wedding stuff. I know they don't all like each other, but they do it for me. That's what your girls should do for you. Get them all together and tell them you want them to be a part of your wedding but they are going to have to suck it up and get along. Your the one that's making the decisions anyway, what do they have to fuss over. Good Luck!
2007-03-06 15:27:00 · answer #2 · answered by warriorchic84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. Although I can completely understand what you are saying about being fed up with all their antics, I dont think I would have gone as far as to "fire" them. Are they being replaced or are you going to forego attendants all together? Honestly, I'd be alot more concerned about your friendships with these girls. I am guessing that they might not take to kindly to what you have done, especially since you say they are calling you bridezilla now. I think you probably should have been a bit more mature and asked each of them to curtail their infighting around you, that you understood that they arent the best of firends and you dont expect them to be, but that you would hope that they could put aside their differences in hopes of giving you an awesome and memory filled day.
I would try to right this situation though or else I think you may find yourself minus three of your "best" friends.
2007-03-06 14:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you were right to do what you did. Besides, if they're more interested in bickering with each other than they are in planning, just think of all the things that could go wrong during the wedding. You need people who are intelligent and focused on your requirements, not people challenging each other to a rage in the cage match. Regardless of how your friends feel about each other, they should have pulled together to help you out. Not to do so, shows a weakness of character.
2007-03-06 14:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jack S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haha, thats pretty funny actually, I've never heard of a bride firing a bridesmaid. But I suppose of they were being caddy bitches I would have fired them too. Serves em right for trying to stress you out during your wedding planning. If they don't respect the positions, then they shouldn't have em.
2007-03-06 14:47:19 · answer #5 · answered by Beffy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you did the right thing. It is your wedding, you special day, you should not have to worry about other peoples problems, I'm sure you have enough to deal with. If these girls are truly your good friends, then shame on them, if they can't pull it together for YOU, the bride, they are not worth the trouble.I hope it all works out, and Congratulations!!
2007-03-06 14:49:30 · answer #6 · answered by Cowboy Take Me Away 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they were doing that on an outing.. could only imagine what would happen at the wedding.
Honestly i don't think what you did was wrong. Even if they hated each other they should at least get along for the sake of your wedding. Don't worry about it.
2007-03-06 14:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by Angel 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
why on earth would you get them together if you know they don't get along. They may just be fighting for your attention - you know, who is REALLY your "best" friend.
Do you have a maid of honor? If she IS your best friend, that is really all you need as far as a witness. This seems kind of petty - how old are you and the bridesmaids??
2007-03-06 14:46:36 · answer #8 · answered by twotaters 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG, im getting married and im not sure if my friends will get aloing with each other, but if they dont i will do exactly the same as you, you have to much to worry about to have your "friend" fighting with each other all the time. Its stressful enough planning and preparing
2007-03-06 14:51:02 · answer #9 · answered by TTC #1 With PCOS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. ur wrong 2 fire them because they r ur friend who want ur happeness . 2.they r wrong tooo because they did not consider the stress on u because of the wedding . talk 2 them because u know they will listen , tell them u worry about everything in the wedding .and u need great help from them ....... do it because wedding means love, happeness, friends....best wishes
2007-03-06 14:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by hagar a 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋