ok...theres this girl, I love her. we have had problems, small fights about little things and then we get over them, but now we are thinking of moving in togather and getting a nice apartment where we split everything 50-50. the problem is that I want to marry her one day but she doesn't want to get married till way way way later...almost to long away for me, and I don't want tobe just some boyfriend roomie, I want her to be a big part of my life, and she gets mad when we even talk about marriage. could I be wasting my time?...and should I take a big risk with someone who I love but I doesn't sem to share the same life goals I have?...I mean really I don't want to be her boyfriend forever but I also don't want to keep talking about it getting her mad about things?...help!
2007-03-06 06:33:15 · 11 answers · asked by 13en 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't move forward with someone who does not have the same goals in life as you do. Move on.
2007-03-06 06:37:04 · answer #1 · answered by Laneymom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sugar! Married is a state of mind. Are you wworried about her being unfaithful? If not then just relax. You are going to live together for mutual benefit right? I just looked up "Marriage" and thats what it means. You are never wasting time. Only making it richer with experience........ Good luck! P.S. Move in with her.... no matter what you want to spend great amounts of time with her right?
2007-03-06 14:41:02 · answer #2 · answered by lbacig 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make alot of sense and you shouldn't do it if she doesn't want to get married. Don't do it. You see it's girls like her who give us other women a bad name. But I think that you r a good guy. Don't move in with her.
2007-03-06 14:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by petty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if you loved her, but weren't ready to get married yet, but she wanted to. I bet you wouldn't want her to break up with you. Give her some time, see if it works. If you love each other, it would be a shame not to see where things may have ended up.
2007-03-06 14:39:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like it's going to end well if you move in together. You are forcing something that she's not ready for. If you move in together its' going to mean different things for each of you and you are going to get frustrated, and neither of you will be happy.
Big price to pay to get half the bills paid for.
2007-03-06 14:38:01 · answer #5 · answered by Pete 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i wouldn't let her move in wit u. only if u were about to get married and if she does this would mean huge problems. u might get in a huge fight and may be not see each other and u dont want that to happen. i would wait a couple days and then ask her if one day she would want to marry u and if s he says no then dont let her move in but if she says yes then let her if its wat u want
2007-03-06 14:45:48 · answer #6 · answered by abby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are wasting your time. She doesn't want a commitment because if she decides to walk out, she wants to just go. She isn't the right one for you.
2007-03-06 14:37:52 · answer #7 · answered by supertop 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No
You seem too needy and immature for this woman. Grow up first and find the right person for you.
Stop rushing things.
2007-03-06 14:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you 10? .. just move in with each other.
2007-03-06 14:43:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your hearts set on getting married and have a family of your own,then it sounds like you better move on,because it sounds like a hopeless case with her.
2007-03-06 14:39:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋