he told me that he likes me and i don't talk 2 him as much b/c i feel uncomfortable b/c he has a girl caus ei dont want n e one to try && take my man. so what should i do i told him that he & his gigrl don't work out then i will be his girl.. is that ok?
2007-03-06 06:29:29 · 26 answers · asked by {~~~} LUV YA ALWAYZ & $ EVA{~~~} 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HE DIDNT ASK ME IF I LIKED HIM I TOLD HIM MYSELF SOME OF YALL ARE MAKING LIKE HE IS A BAD PERSON AND HES NOT..............
2007-03-06 06:37:57 · update #1
Yes, it's okay to tell him that if and when he breaks with his girl, you would date him, and you definitely had the right instinct to not date or flirt with him while he is her boyfriend. Stick to your principles here and keep your distance until they break up. It's okay if you date other guys in the meantime.
He needs to decide what he wants to do here before he turns into a cheater - he can't have a girlfriend and still flirt/have feelings for another girl.
2007-03-06 06:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well a few things here tell me that this could be all wrong for you if you decide to try to be his girl. The fact that you feel uncomfortable around him says that their may have underlying guilt about how he feels about you. Hoping that they break is just bad karma - you really don't want to be rebound girl, do you? If he does break up with her then the best thing for you to do is wait. In fact do that now...while he's trying to make up his mind about his relationship, try and see if you can forge one of your own with someone else. There are so many guys out there and waiting for one may rob you of the chance of finding someone better. Patience and knowing that things will change will get you through this - I promise. I've been through this kind of thing myself and when she finally did leave the guy she was with, she was attracted to the person who wasn't pining away for her and was getting on with his life - namely, me. No one is more attractive than someone who has their act together and isn't giving off the "needy" vibe.
2007-03-06 14:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by DNAgent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's really good that you put yourself last and his girlfriend first. You did good. It's nice that you put the shoe on the other foot and realized how you would feel. Personally though I would move on. Find someone else to occupy your mind instead of someone you can't have. Good luck and there should be more girls like you out there.
2007-03-06 14:36:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get another dude. It may take time, but once you find a man that wants YOU, and not you for just SEX, but You for who you are you'll have your man and he has a winner. It took me several years to get my soon to be wife. She had a guy that didn't care about her, he just wanted sex. I was always there for her, then one day he shot a gun in her face. It was pointed away but right in her face to scare her. I then kicked his *** and had the cops take him away. Her and I now have been together for over 3 years and plan to get hiched at the end of summer. The KEY is find someone that wants YOU for who you are.
2007-03-06 14:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well look at it this way, if he is doing that to his girl he has now, chances are he may be doing the same thing to you later. also is he just looking for someone on the side, or maybe he just wants you to fill in until he finds what he is really looking for. I'm sorry I can't give you an answer but well those are just things to think about.
2007-03-06 14:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by wicked_eyez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure that is OK if you want to wait on him for ever. He has a girl, you need to find some one who will not play head games with your affections .You can still be friends, but until he is ready to give her up, you are on the loosing end.
2007-03-06 14:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you are on the right track with this guy. Let him know that you don't share yourself with people who are not commited to you 100%. Just go on about your business and let him find himself another girl to fool around on his girlfriend with. It's good that you told him what the deal was beacuse it leaves no doubt to him that you are not that type of lady.
2007-03-06 14:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him to back off until he's available. I wouldn't tell him that you'll be his girl if he and her doesn't work out, he can either think you'll hang on until then or he'll break up with her to be with you. But remember, if he breaks up with her to be with you, he'll most likely break up with you to be with someone else. What goes around comes around. Just think about what you would like to have happen if the tables were turned, if you were his girl and he was diggin on another chic...how would you want it to be handled?
2007-03-06 14:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea thats ok...i respect u for that,,its not right to get involved with a guy that already has a girl cause u wouldnt want that to happen to u in the future
2007-03-06 14:34:35 · answer #9 · answered by sweetpea25609 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's exactly the way to go about it. i wish more women thought like you. wait until he figures out his relationship with his girlfriend, when it is completely over, then try to work something out. like you said, you wouldn't like it if another girl came sniffing around when you and your boyfriend were having a hard time. i wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-06 14:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋