my mom drove from virginia to texas to visit for the birth of my baby, her first grandchild. me and my boyfriend are both in the army. while she was here she was smoking pot in our apartment. knowing how we both feel about it. well my boyfriend was very angry when he caught a whiff of it. decided to let it go until he found her bowl and bag of pot in our bathroom and decided she had to go. so he told her she could get a hotel room or go back to virginia. she decided to get a hotel room. then as she was leaving told me she had a dollar no cigarettes and that her and my sister would be sleeping in the car at the gas station. i know thats not true but it made me feel really bad. my boyfriend ended up have a urinalysis today when he went in for pt. so if he had been exposed to enough of it he would have ended up failing. do you think i am a terrible daughter for giving her the boot?
2007-03-06 06:21:11 · 25 answers · asked by alanis 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i think your boyfriend did the right thing, thats not only endangering the baby but both of your careers as well. if she was going to stay with you she should have respected both of your feelings and not done it. thats disrespecting both of you by not caring what you think. ya'll did the right thing!
2007-03-06 11:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think your mom was very selfish considering what she was visiting for. The birth of a new baby is no time to be sitting around getting stoned. My mom would have been at my house cleaning and helping to get things ready for when we came home from the hospital. I, too, would have been insulted if my mom came over just to get high when I had a new baby to care for. The mom is supposed to be the responsible one, giving you advice and trying to help you, not bother you for money before she leaves because she spent it on pot. I don't think you should feel bad. Your mom was supposed to be there to support you, not put her problems on you. There's a time and a place for everything. My mom talks to me about her problems all the time, but she wouldn't bother me with them at a time like that. Just like I wouldn't bother her with mine if she was going through something big. It's just common courtesy as people, much less mother and daughter.
I got no problem with people who smoke pot. Lots of people have atleast tried it. And it grows out of the ground. A person could be doing much worse like meth or something. But your mom should have been more thoughtful.
And your bf's drug test most likely won't some back positive. (just to put your mind at ease a bit) If you don't actually smoke it, you would have to sit in a room completely full of pot smoke for it to register in your system.
2007-03-06 14:45:02 · answer #2 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing for every one concerned. Don't go on a guilt trip over this. Your mother should have enough respect for you and your boyfriend and your home. Above all, she should be considerate of your babies good health!! If second hand smoke is dangerous, just think how dangerous second hand pot is. For the sake of her family, your mom should leave her drugs at home or rent a motel room.
2007-03-06 14:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're terrible at all. Your mother should be mature enough to know better. I'm a mother myself and if I did smoke pot, I sure wouldn't do it around my son much less my grandchild. She now knows the ground rules in your home and hopefully she will come to her senses. You did the right thing and showed a lot of maturity. Good for you.
2007-03-06 14:44:39 · answer #4 · answered by tbirdclass 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Your mom is doing something illeagal in your house. You and your boyfriend could get into serious trouble because of the fact that you are in the army. The fact that she is doing that with your baby in the house is just wrong. I think you and your boyfriend did the right thing telling her to get a hotel room.
2007-03-06 14:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you were being a good parent and a responsible, moral adult. Your mother needs to grow up! Smoking pot when you are 17 and don't know better is one thing, smoking pot when you are a grandmother, when you are in someone else's house and around an infant is entirely another. Your mother is immature, especially to try to leave you with a guilt complex for what she caused. You should be proud of yourself and your husband. God Bless you both! And thanks for your service to your country!!
2007-03-06 14:39:37 · answer #6 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was aware of the rules of your house no, dont feel bad she brought it on herself. You have to keep that new baby safe...if she is stoned do you want her holding your baby? Do you want her in your house doing god knows what with the baby under the same roof. I have no problme wiht pot smokers personally but i think it was very selfish and wrong of her since she knows how you feel and there is a baby involved. You did the right thing
2007-03-06 14:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by Courtney C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is responsible for her own life, you are responsible for yours and that of your child. If she didn't have enough money, she shouldn't have come, but seeing that she had money for cigerettes and pot, she was probably using you.
Just because she is your mother does not give her the right to impose on you, your finances or to smoke or take drugs in your home. If she had little respect for you, it is her own fault for getting kicked out, not yours.
Your brother did the right thing. Don't feel guilty. If your mother wants to visit again, set down rules for her to follow while in your home, otherwise tell her not to come. Your home - your rules.
2007-03-06 14:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by Nepetarias 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you took the high road and DEFINITELY did the right thing! By having an illegal drug in your home, your mom was jeopardizing your family! If a neighbor had smelled the marijuana and reported it, CPS would've been called in and they would've taken your baby! This scenario happens EVERY day in Texas! Your mother sure needs to wake up and smell the coffee, but until she does, it is your parental responsibility to protect your home and your family from anyone whose lifestyle endangers them....and that includes your mom!
2007-03-06 14:45:08 · answer #9 · answered by Krtyr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no, you are not a terrible daughter. However, in my opinion i think you should have told her not to smoke pot in your apartments because of your and your boyfriend's career, and because of your baby. Making her leave is a bit harsh. If she did it again then i could understand.
2007-03-06 14:38:44 · answer #10 · answered by citie_chick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY. Your mother was very disrespectful to you and your boyfriend.
knowing that you just had a new baby. Smoking it in you apt, how disrespectful is that. Your boyfriend did the right thing and you nor
he should feel terrible.
Good luck with the new baby and congrats!!!!
2007-03-06 15:01:27 · answer #11 · answered by janet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋