Right, im so broody! my boyfriend who ive been with for 3 and a half years wants to wait a few months before trying for baby, and i want to forget about it til then! i 21, he is 28... we r in the process of buying a house! its so hard to forget cos i want a baby so much! i need to put myself off til he is ready........... finding it so hard!!!! help!!!?
2007-03-06 06:16:20 · 12 answers · asked by purplegal 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
you're 21? you've got your whole life ahead of you, why on earth would you want to give it all up for a screaming brat at this age?
Look after someone else's kids for a couple of days - when my boyfriend's niece and nephew toddlers stayed I didnt even have time for a bath in 2 days - it put me off children for LIFE
the house will be an absolute tip, you wont have time to do any redecorating or enjoy your new home, you'll be constantly exhausted, no sleep, no money, no freedom, no nights out. Its beyond me why anyone would put themselves through it, let alone aged 21!!
2007-03-06 06:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by G*I*M*P 5 · 1⤊ 5⤋
Try and focus on the things that you enjoy doing, that you won't be able to do with a baby. Going out for the evening without having to find a babysitter; going shopping for clothes; reading a book without being interupted, meeting a friend for a coffee. I know it's hard to appreciate these things, but believe me you will once a baby comes along.
Pregnancy is not easy. I had a really hard time and found it hard enough to cope, without moving house at the same time. At the start you will probably feel extremely tired, sick and down. Do you really want to feel like that when in the middle of moving? Ultimately it's up to you, but you've got plenty of time so don't rush into being a parent. It is great but also very hard work.
All the bestxx
2007-03-06 15:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by Scatty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were trying to get a house all the time I was pregnant (We'd lived in a 4th floor flat) and finally got it sorted the day before I gave birth! When I got out of hospital, I not only had to learn how to live with the huge change in my life, I had to pack up the flat (Hubby works full time+) and move 200 miles and set up the new house! I've never been so stressed in my life and it prevented me enjoying the early stages of my daughters life! Get settled first and look forward to being able to enjoy being pregnant and having a newborn! It's much better than being stressed out about it. Good luck, whatever you decide to do! x
2007-03-06 14:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by scamp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sis had a baby 6 months ago, all through her pregnancy and since her little boy came along i've been desperate for another child (i have a 7 yr old) but my fiance wants to wait until we are married (another 2yrs!), i can see his point, but its tough! All i can say is try and respect his wishes, and once you're well settled into your new house, hopefully he'll be ready to have a child. I dont really think theres a cure as such but i do think if you wait until your both ready, it'll be worth it. Good Luck!!
2007-03-09 10:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ ezzbez ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Much as I love my kids.....think - no money, no privacy, no spare time, no sleep, vomit, pooh, tantrums, stress and arguments.
If you're buying a house that's stressful enough on it's own without having to feed a baby every 3 hours night and day. Wait until you're settled in, then have a think about it
Best of luck on both counts!
2007-03-06 14:36:19 · answer #5 · answered by Ian F 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should wait I know it sounds dumb but get that house bought first make sure your life has stablized and it will be a more joyful experiance a few months is not along time to wait. If you are smart enough to plan to have kids rather than just have them get yourselfs set up first.
2007-03-06 14:23:35 · answer #6 · answered by stacie_collins2001 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, hit yourself in the vagina with a brick as hard as you can., for between four and twenty hours. Then, set your alarm every two hours during the night, everytime it goes off, get up, go downstairs and hold a bag of sugar to your tit for twenty minutes, then clean the bag and reset alarm for two hours later. During the day, continue the holding to breast of bag of sugar, adding in the cleaning of human crap from another person and occasionally throwing a bit of cold vegetable soup over your clothes to simulate constant goddam puking. Get one of those seriously irratating fog horns that wails, and turn it on for half an hour every few hours. Rinse and repeat for MONTHS!
Having said that, best thing I ever did.
2007-03-06 14:31:25 · answer #7 · answered by CHARISMA 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Lol! I was in the same position as you about 8 months ago!
Wait for your house, as moving is soooooo stressful, and you dont want that whilst being pregg!
Get your house, move in, try for baby, at least you'll be moved in with no stress, and arhhhh!!!
Good luck in trying!
2007-03-06 14:20:34 · answer #8 · answered by chloe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
watch films or programs of women giving birth!!! that should put u off for about 6 months lol
2007-03-09 15:07:46 · answer #9 · answered by katluvsu4eva2004 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
try looking after a friend or relatives kid for a few hours.....
it always stops me feeling broody!
2007-03-06 14:19:16 · answer #10 · answered by clareydairy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋