Getting married in 6 weeks and think I am going to drive my fiance crazy. He has been married before and this is my first and I am worring about every single little detail. How does a girl relax when so much is going on?????
2007-03-06 06:06:52 · 22 answers · asked by Tiffany 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
don't over plan...also, dont feel the need to stick to tradition...traditions can stress you out...like, you dont REALLY need a rehearsal dinner...crap like that
2007-03-06 06:10:09 · answer #1 · answered by j c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, no matter how much you plan, sweat and stress something will go wrong. Don't worry, it's usually something minor that you won't even think about until way later. Just aknowledge that you have done you best & your hardest to make this an occassion everyone will love. The only time it will be perfect is when it's all over, and believe me, it flys by the day of. So enjoy it, and remember, you want him to mean those words on that altar so don't give him reason to doubt your sanity Avoid feeling guilty about being a bridezilla later by not being one now. Call on the help of trusted friends and family members, if you don't trust how they'll perform the task, write detailed instructions and I'm sure they'll do just fine. Keep in mind you're proabably the only one that will notice the finest details anyway.
2007-03-06 06:19:52 · answer #2 · answered by lsr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in the same situation here. We picked the wedding dress together. Then I worried if I should not let my fiance see the wedding gown before the wedding. We chose an ivory wedding gown and then I worried if it is appropriate because this is our first marriage...
Sometimes, we just give ourselves too much stress. I totally agree with Sangmo: The most important thing is we are going to spend the rest of our lives together with the chosen one. We want to share our happiness and joy with family and friends. We invite them to witness our ture commitment. Those details are important but not that important. So, relax and enjoy the time before your big day! Best wishes for your wedding and marriage!
2007-03-06 06:29:30 · answer #3 · answered by ambercat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It helps to have a ton of help from friends and family. I felt like this though, and every bride I ever met felt like this, it's natural. No one tells you how hard it is to plan a wedding, and while one of the other people that answered is correct, no one notices every little detail that you worry about, it's your wedding and you want it to be perfect and go off without a hitch.
I recommend deep breathing exercises, getting at least an hour to yourself each week, with no wedding thoughts, and then I recommend drinking heavily during the festivities, because you've earned it.
2007-03-06 06:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by Catherine T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only see the craziness getting worse as the wedding day approaches. This is normal. Things are bound to be stressful with so much planning to do and finalizing things. Chill out a bit. Things will work out in the end especially if you are obsessing about every single little detail. Good luck in your upcoming marriage.
2007-03-06 06:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is hard cause you start thinking of all the things that can go wrong.
The true is that even if you have every little detail plan out, things can still go wrong. There is nothing you can do, but enjoy your special day.
I stressed out until the last minute, when I was getting ready to walk down the aisle my ring bearer came running back crying he got a hold of my dad's leg and wouldn't let go. So we walk down the aisle with the ring bearer holding my dad's hand with tears coming down his cheeks. You should see my pictures they are hilarious. We did practice, but once he saw all the people he started getting nervous.
So relax and enjoy the special day. Congratulations.
2007-03-06 06:15:30 · answer #6 · answered by hayde_kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha! You don't! It's you big day and of course you are going to stress over every little detail. You want it to be perfect! All kidding aside, just realize that the people attending your wedding aren't going to be worried if one of the flowers seems to be dying, or the frosting on the cake has a thumb print on it, or someone forgot the rings.. Oh, wait.. That is something to worry about!! Just think about when it is all said and done the kind of life you and your partner are going to have together.. You two are the ones who matter to each other. Good luck and congratulations!!
2007-03-06 06:12:09 · answer #7 · answered by tmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are couple of things in life that are the worst stresses that we go through. This is one of them.
Stress levels go high in those chapters in your life:
Graduation
Marriage
New home
Baby
someone dies
So, think of it positive stress, and enjoy the fact that whatever thing goes wrong if it is not as PERFECTIONIST as you would have to be, the end of the day it is the MAN that is important, not the plan or the party or the appearance. I hope that you understand and just think more relax way, and say to yourself 'okay girl, even if this does not happen perfectly, at least i know i will be the wife of this man that loves me, hrey hrey'.
chill out, try to find little relaxation things like go for a body massage or something, try to enjoy this, it is joy, not a bad news.
Good luck, and keep yourself beautiful.
x
2007-03-06 06:12:00 · answer #8 · answered by Spark S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A friend told me this:
Believe it or not, this is a happy time. With so much going on, it's tough to see the bigger picture (or the picture at all!). Stop, take a breath, look around. See all the great stuff going on? See your fiance? Feel the love? Isn't this nice? THAT'S the moment you'll remember. Do this up to and through your wedding. Every once in a while, just stop yourself. Completely. Let yourself take it all in. Amazing, what's going on. You deserve to remember at least bits of it.
2007-03-06 06:13:02 · answer #9 · answered by Just tryin' to help 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Stop and remember why you are planning everything-- to get married to the most wonderful man you've ever known.
This is the day you will unite as one and the day you will celebrate it with your families.
Try to look ahead - in 50 years will it matter if the cake was a little crooked or if the color of the flowers were a little off?
2007-03-06 10:19:55 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember to relax and take time for yourself. The day will be here and gone before you know it. It's all right to feel stressed and don't ever allow anyone to tell you that you are overreacting to the overwelmng day that's coming up. Make sure you have a great support system and don't be afraid to ask others for help and support.
2007-03-10 03:32:38 · answer #11 · answered by sweet.escape77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋