do u think it's ok to get married in a courthouse then have a big wedding when u can afford it? a female friend asked me that what do u think?
2007-03-06 06:05:54 · 8 answers · asked by chad_27292 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Why not wait till you can afford it then get married then?
Or have a renewal of vows ceremony on a special anniversary?
2007-03-06 10:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it can be a good idea. My husband and I had a courthouse wedding, and we will be doing a big wedding in two years as a 'renewal of vows' when he comes back from Iraq (Army, deploying for 14 months). We would have waited until we had the money saved up, but he wanted to make sure I was secure while he was gone, taken care of financially, and given the support of other wives and from the Army. We told everyone not to make a big deal out of our courthouse wedding, because the big wedding will be in April 2009. We've told everyone not to send gifts until the big wedding, and we told them that they would all be invited to the big wedding. We didn't tell anyone about our courthouse wedding until after the fact, because we didn't want people to make a big deal out of it.
There are circumstances where a small wedding, followed by a big wedding later, is a good idea, but my suggestion to your friend would be to make the big ceremony at least a year after the courthouse ceremony.
By the way, the big wedding does not have to be on the same date as the other...decide which date you want to celebrate, and go with that. We're going to celebrate the date of the courthouse wedding, because the date has significance to both of us, but your friend can pick whichever she prefers.
2007-03-06 07:25:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jewel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think it's such a great idea. I'd pick either the courthouse wedding, and then saving the $ for a house or furniture or something for the future, or waiting to save the money if a big wedding is your dream. If a lot of time passes between the civil service and the big wedding, renewing your vows might be a better idea.
2007-03-06 06:22:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ideally, taking one more thing off your mind during your big ceremony is always great. My husband and I almost didn't get our licensed signed after our wedding because we were so busy. I have tons of military buddies who have done this. They got married at the courthouse, then had a large celebration either after they got back or could afford it. I would definitely advise your friend to proceed, if that's how she wants to get married!
2007-03-06 07:46:48 · answer #4 · answered by InsuranceGooRoo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. If you get married in a courthouse that is your wedding - whatever the circumstances. You would have family and close friends to your, or your parents' home, for a lunch or dinner after that.
If you wait, and save, then you could have a different kind of wedding.
However, not both.
2007-03-06 08:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that would be fine. I wouldnt do it right after the first wedding. Maybe on the 5th year or 10th do it as renewing the vows.
2007-03-06 06:10:27 · answer #6 · answered by j 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I dont see what "wrong" with it, although I wouldnt do it. I know in some countries you're not considered truely married unless its in the church, but here in the US we know the law makes marriage more legally binding than any church!
I also think once you're married legally, why do it over later? unless its like renew your vows but you'd have to wait for a milestone anniversary.
2007-03-06 06:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by okiedokey 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I don't agree with this. You get one wedding per marriage. Just wait a few months for when you can afford the wedding.
2007-03-06 06:12:16 · answer #8 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋