I had a miscarriage and noone cared..everyone blew it off like it was nothing.Most of my siblings didn't even call me.There were even rumors started that it wasn't a miscarriage,but an abortion.My sister had one a little while ago and everyone's acting like it's the end of the world! I'm pregnant again and noone's brought up the idea of a babyshower or called to see how I'm doing..just like last time.I'm still married to the father of my first and this is our second.My sister probably did'teven know who the father was....why do they treat me this way?
2007-03-06 05:58:38 · 15 answers · asked by Direktor 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry your family treats you this way, what is wrong with people. could it be they are jealous of you? when they should be proud of you. some families are so dysfunctioanl, they see the normal member as a threat, someone they think they can't be as good as. Don't let this mar your own happinees about your pregnancy and the family you have. After all, they are your real family now. I have had to learn to be that way. Everything will be ok and just learn to be independent, also, having a baby shower for the 2'nd child was always done, but why can't you have your own? ask people over to celebrate your pregnancy-sorry to say this but for your own happiness; lower your expectations of people. Remember everyone has some kind of family troubles although most won't admit it-and btw-congratulations!
2007-03-06 14:15:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about the miscarriage. It is really hard to loose a baby.
Now congrats on you new baby to come!!
I really feel for you. My mother is like that. I really don't know why they do it.
I can't say that she has a favourite because i the only child!!!
So that theory is kind of shot. lol I can only tell you to concentrate on your new family and make them the most important people in your life. Never mind the others, it's there loss. If they want to act like toadlickers.
They say the ones that love can really be the ones that hurt sometimes.
Good luck
2007-03-06 14:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by janet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Becasue you let them. Not to sound mean but they are not giving out trophy's for having children. I sympathize with you and your loss but you now have a chance to rejoice and celebrate your new baby. I know that it can be hurtful that they are treating you this way and catering to your sister but who cares if you really want a baby shower you and the father give it yourselves its 2007 nothing is "tradition" anymore and continue on as if someone else did it for you then scream at the top of your lungs that you are having a baby and be happy over joyed if your family does not want to participate thats fine too becasue all that matters is that you are excited that you are having a baby and a happy mom makes a happy baby Congratulations again good luck
2007-03-06 14:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by Friday 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well they probably know you better than i do but i would say that it's probably because they baby your sister. If your sister was always treated better than you were then this could be the way they respond to her when they find out something happened to her. Also you should maybe try and talk to them and tell them how you feel. And last but not least why don't you bring up a baby shower in you guys conversation?
2007-03-06 14:05:09 · answer #4 · answered by Shazzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just very wrong? Is ther anyone in your family you trust? Maybe you can talk to that person and ask why they treat you like this. You're pregnant and you need your family's support. Maybe they just worry about your sister because she isn't married and they feel like she needs ore guidance but you do okay and you're responsible. I know you feel like crap and I think you should totally tell someone in your family. Like your mom or dad, someone you trust.
2007-03-06 14:05:58 · answer #5 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Instead of letting them push you out of their life, push them out of yours! Don't call them or let them know what's going on. See if they get the picture. My husband's family is the exact same way, they didn't care when we got married and when I told them that we were pregnant they didn't give two sh*ts. When my daughter was born, again no big deal. We just got tired of it and started pushing them out of our lives. We don't call them anymore and don't let them know when Madi does amazing things like crawl, talk, or even when she started eating solid foods. We came to the conclusion that our daughter doesn't need people like that in her life. And guess what? We are more relaxed, can enjoy ourselves, and focus all that attention worrying about them to our child.
2007-03-06 14:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jamie B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they're afraid. They don't want their hopes brought up just to be smashed down again. Like the saying goes "Always expect the worst. You'll get what you expect or better."
2007-03-06 14:05:07 · answer #7 · answered by Artemis L. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Theres no way I can know why they treat you like that. But if it was me I wouldnt have anything to do with them. You have a husband and youre starting a family so concentrate on them.
2007-03-06 14:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your family may have a favorite? I would bring it up with them and tell them how it makes you feel. Or if you can't do it face to face, write each family member a letter.
2007-03-06 14:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by DeeGee 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋