Is it ok to invite multiple people you are dating to sleep at your house but not have sex with them?
I am dating a nice girl, formerly my girlfriend and we are trying again, but now she recently started dating someone else also. Both guys know about the other, but we recently found out we both have been sleeping at her house but neither of us are having sex with her. She claims she is trying to decide who she wants and does not know what to do but to continue to date us both till she makes her mind up. Both he and I want more from her, but she seems to be holding us both at bay and kind of playing us against each other claiming she is confused and trying to make her mind up. Is she worth sticking with to see if I prevail?
2007-03-06 05:52:00 · 5 answers · asked by Bruce V 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am dating a nice girl, formerly my girlfriend and we are trying again, but now she recently started dating someone else also. Both guys know about the other, but we recently found out we both have been sleeping at her house but neither of us are having sex with her. She claims she is trying to decide who she wants and does not know what to do but to continue to date us both till she makes her mind up. Both he and I want more from her, but she seems to be holding us both at bay and kind of playing us against each other claiming she is confused and trying to make her mind up. She is up front that she is dating us and since she is there is no commitment to either of us. She and I still vacation go to dinner and she also goes out and does things with him also. She tells me she is somewhat more interested in him since she and I already has a past with me, but she continues to ask me to do things and shows emotion towards me, confusing me. Is she worth sticking with to see if I prevail?
2007-03-06 06:21:39 · update #1
Is the town you live in that small that you have to fight over a girl who is clearly messing with both of you. She does not sound like a girl that I would "stick" it out for. You should love yourself enough to know that this is not how you want to be treated. Move around see what else or who else for that matter is out there.
2007-03-06 06:01:09 · answer #1 · answered by Friday 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you just thinking of this situation as an "I'm the winner"? If your only consideration in putting up with this is that then you need to move on! On the other hand, if she is being completely honest with you about the other guy and she can't decide who she wants to be with then I really don't see a problem with her struggling with deciding. You have to consider though that if in fact she does choose you then how will you know if she hasn't been rejected by the other guy and you are the second choice?? One of you are bound to get tired of playing around with her trying to figure out what she wants...
2007-03-06 14:05:03 · answer #2 · answered by evansgirl78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh god, that's a sticky situation!! She sounds like she's playing both of you. She must be using this to boost her own self confidence. It's sad that people use each other to boost their own self worth. You both shouldnt be sleeping at her house. Just keep your distance from her. It shouldnt be a competition. Just do your own thing and let her come to you. Don't wait around for her.
why cant I get two guys after me??? Life is unfair!
2007-03-06 13:59:42 · answer #3 · answered by cuteami78 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, she pretty obviously is playing both of you. So, your asking if this girl who doesn't care enough about you to actually make any kind of decision is worth sticking with? Than, No. If she cared for either of you she wouldn't be doing this. Drop her before she hurts you more, which trust me she will.
2007-03-06 13:59:56 · answer #4 · answered by land-pliskin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she really knew that she wanted you she would be with you. and hey ... we are in the year 2007 how many guys sleep over a girls house and don't sleep with her. adn why would the guy be honest with you anyway. ... You are getting played ... move on
2007-03-06 14:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by destiney 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋