I'm just wondering if anyone has any advice for us. And if anyone knows if he will be allowed to get Emergency Leave to come home when the baby is born. Also once the baby is born will it be able to have his insurance?
2007-03-06 05:48:17 · 21 answers · asked by DreamAngel 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
No one knows this answered this question right. Even if you are married he still may not be able to get any leave. It would depend on the mission that he is on and /or the Command he is with. I would advise you to get married and then get enrolled into DEERS so you and the unborn baby can recieve military befits.
2007-03-06 06:03:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Get married and you might have the benefits you are asking for. The baby will be covered under Tricare Insurance after a DNA test is done after the baby is born to prove paternity. If you get married and his name is on the birth certificate you and the baby will be covered by the insurance and a DNA test will not be needed to put the baby on his Page 2 as a dependent. As far as emergency leave, maybe maybe not. It depends on his chain of command, but there are thousands of babies born to military families every year without the father being present. Being his wife will make that more probably than just being his girl friend. I don't want to seem mean, but I have been a female on active duty a long time and have seen some bad cases when it comes to the girlfirends in situations like this. If you have ever talked marriage, I suggest you get married to cover everyone. Baby's are very expensive to have and to take care of. With the military medical insurance you don't pay a dime for anything.
2007-03-06 06:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he will not get emergency leave when the baby is born. They don't give anyone emergency leave when their baby is born unless the baby might die. Yes the baby will be on the insurance, but only after you get his name on the birth certificate. Some states like Virginia have a process that you have to go through to get a boyfriend on the certificate. You can't put the name on yourself. Which means that anything that happens before his name is on it is not covered by military insurance. Also, you are not covered to have the baby. If you plan on being together 'forever' and want to get married anyway, now would be the time to do it. That way Tricare will cover all of your medical bills. If you two do not plan on ever getting married, I hope you have really good insurance, having a baby can cost a lot of money in hospital bills and that is if the baby comes out healthy. Good luck to you.
2007-03-06 06:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by lilly j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married! You have no medical benefits or anything from the military until you do. Having a baby is not an emergency unless there are complications and then only if you're married. Once the baby is born and he registers the dependent (Marine Corps its called DEERS Program) the baby will have some benefits such as health. But, things like shopping on base would be easier if your married and both you & baby are listed as dependents. As for life insurance your boyfriend can list who ever he wants as beneficiary - baby, you, parents, exgirlfriend, whoever. (I saw guys in bootcamp list their girlfriend. Years later when they got married to a different girl, guess who was legal beneficiary) He will have to do paperwork to change it from whoever is designated now or it will stay that person.
2007-03-06 06:08:22 · answer #4 · answered by Gunny Bill 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The baby will be allowed to use military health insurance, but it will much easier if you two were married. That's obviously your choice, though. As long as he is going to be responsible and take care of the baby and get the paperwork done for it to have insurance, you should be fine.
Emergency leave depends on where he is when the baby is born. If he is deployed, no, he will not. Lots of babies are born while their daddies are in Iraq. If he isn't deployed, it will depend on his chain of command. Again, being married would probably help here. My husband is supposed to be out of town training around my due date, and we are still not sure whether they will let him be at the birth of our daughter. If he has to travel a long distance to get from his duty station to where you are, that will make it even more difficult (as by the time he gets the leave approved, gets on a plane, and gets to you, the baby may be born already). It would probably be best for him to put in for leave around your due date, and hope that the baby comes then.
Obviously, things would be a lot easier in this situation if the two of you were married and/or you lived near his duty station. If neither of those are possible, he needs to really start working with his chain of command on what they can do to help him out.
Good luck and congrats on your little one
2007-03-06 09:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
These people are ridiculous. You don't have to get married to have this baby. As his dependant the baby he will be able to put the baby in DEERS and he/she will be covered by his insurance. It is true that a birth is not considered an emergency therefore he won't be granted emergency leave. But if he has leave on the books he may take regular annual leave. Fathers are entitled to 10 days of paternity leave but depending upon the command they may or may not grant it to someone who is not married. Good luck!
2007-03-06 08:20:00 · answer #6 · answered by NCMOMMAAC 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marry him and your baby will have nice protections for health care and benefits. As a girlfriend, you'll get nothing if something happens to him. He will be allowed to get emergency leave to come home for his wife giving birth. It's not clear what formal rights exist if you're not married. If he's deployed to a war zone, he will not be able to come home regardless of your marital status.
Marry him not just for the end of the red tape but because if you marry you are much likely to stick together for your child's childhood and children do much worse in single parent families, even controlling for income, studies consistently find.
Also, remember that babies are harmed by more than 10 hours a week separation from their mothers for the first few years of life. Also, read about human milk - use of formula will actually cost your baby 10 iq points on average, and greatly increases the child's risk of diabetes and cancer. Plus, it's how babies evolved to learn, because babies brain cells only form connections when they are being held.
2007-03-06 05:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
As long as you are not married, only the child will be eligible for dependent benefits. A baby being born is not an emergency. He can take leave if he has enough saved up and his leave is approved.
2007-03-06 05:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No they will not grant emergency leave because you are having a baby. Emergency leave is for life and death situations.
If he is stateside, he may be allowed to take normal leave.
Yes, if he claims your baby as his, the baby will be considered his dependent and have tri-care insurance. But he will have to process the paper work to claim the baby as his dependent.
For you to be covered, you would have to be married.
2007-03-06 06:05:21 · answer #9 · answered by jeeper_peeper321 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
He shouldnt have any problems coming home. ( a good friend was in labor and they flew her husband back and he made just 30 min before his son was born) Now the other baby he didnt make it he couldnt leave but they had him on speaker phone so he could hear his daughters first cry.) I am pretty sure it will have his insurance when the baby is born.
2007-03-06 05:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by Alexis221 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋