HER GRAVE WAS VANVALISED BY THE PEOPLE SHE SAID IN HER DIARY HAD RAPED HER AND MOLESTED HER SINCE SHE WAS EIGHT YRS OLD WHICH CONTINUED FOR EIGHT YRS. WHO CAN HELP ME? tHIS WAS DEVASTATING FOR ME AND MY SON TO FIND.
2007-03-06 05:45:55 · 48 answers · asked by Lyndell T 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
i dont think this is the place for you to find solace.
commiserations on your loss!
i must admit i agree with la swap above.
jizzumonk is completely right!
2007-03-06 05:51:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 4⤋
First the cemetery is responsible for the grave sight and they should bring in the police. Make copies of the diary and take it to the police. What has happened is a shame and that you are feeling guilty about the whole thing. Some people say you should of known, but many things can happen that we are unaware of, your daughter did not feel safe sharing what was going on. Now you need to begin your life a new your life has been changed and it will never be the same. Do not hold on to the anger and disappointment.
2007-03-06 06:10:56 · answer #2 · answered by lakelover 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm very sorry to hear of your loss that has been worsened by this senseless desecration to her final resting place. There's a lot of mean people in the this world.
I fail to see how people can judge you to be a bad mother not knowing the circumstances, nor knowing the circumstances with your son. What could your son do? Stand guard over the gravesite 24/7?
The only thing I can say is that you won't know it, but, those responsible will receive their justice, either in this life or the next.
I would concentrate on making a life worth living for yourself and your son, and not let these people cast a shadow over you. If they insist, bring the police into play.
2007-03-12 12:23:30 · answer #3 · answered by rann_georgia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please go to the police, I`m sure they can help get the animals that did this to your daughter. This is another valid reason why they should bring back corporal punishment!!!
Nobody deserves to go through this let alone after having to bury your child. From what I have read you have had a very difficult time and I hope you and your son find happier days together.
Also I suggest seeking some kind of counselling if you`re not already getting this, it might help.
Take care x
2007-03-07 07:05:19 · answer #4 · answered by SarahLee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she was eight years old??? OMG You say you are her mother...where were you ..how could you not know this...did her brother live with her? Is he maybe an abuser? Call the police ..or is there a reason you can't? Why tell us here about this..what is wrong with you! and may this poor girl finally rest in peace.
Later addition:
thank you for taking the time to email me with your circumstances Lyndell I did not, as the others here also did not, realise she was in foster care and all the troubles you have had in life which is not for me to repeat here. You may want to add a note to your question that she was NOT in your care..you do not need to post ALL the circumstances. I hope the authorities can do whats right and you have some peace as well as your daughter..why she never spoke out we will never know unfortunately many children do not for fear of the very ones abusing them. It is a sick world and all of us as parents MUST learn from this and let our children know they CAN tell us and we will help them. Please notify the authorities and stop these people from doing further harm.
2007-03-06 05:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by healthynow 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
How totally devastating for you and your family to have the memory of your beloved daughter abused in this way...these moronic individuals are abusing her memory just as they abused her physically when she was a young girl...they cannot be allowed to get away with this...do you have evidence which backs up your notion that they are the ones who vandalised her grave? If so, contact the police, the parish of the church where she is buried, the council, in fact contact as many people as you can to try and get this sorted out and to prevent it happening in future. I am so very very sorry, it must be awful for you and I hope that you and your family will draw comfort from each other. It is such early days for your grieving process and then for this to happen.....don;t let them beat you, don't let them get away with this, and you just remember that they cannot take away all the memories and love of your daughter....they are evil sick b******s. take care of yourself xxx
2007-03-09 22:50:59 · answer #6 · answered by widow_purple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are just born total ba$tard$ and some are just plain evil.
I am so sorry for your loss, my mum passed away in Jan this year and i would be devastated if this happened to me and my family.
Keep your daughters diary and make a report to the police, these people deserve to rot in hell on both counts!
Take care.
2007-03-09 11:24:24 · answer #7 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take her diary and all the information to the police this is a matter for them to deal with, show them the grave and get something done about it. Good luck.
2007-03-08 10:24:07 · answer #8 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and show them the diary ... some people are so cruel imagine doing that to a persons resting place , i am saddened by society at times , I do not know what i can say to you to aleviate your pain ..
God Bless you and your son and may your beloved daughter rest in peace ...
2007-03-06 07:04:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm so very sorry about your loss and the terrible vandalism...I think your only option is to go to the police...to have violated your daughter when she was alive is bad enough but to do this...words fail me..I just hope that the saying 'what goes around comes around' is true in this case...
2007-03-09 01:57:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Lyndell I am so so sorry to read your terrible sad story, My own daughter died last October so I really do know how you are feeling,My daughter used to phone me every day and I miss that phone call. The way I am coping is knowing that one day I will see her again and I truly believe that. I did see her in a dream and she looked very happy so I keep that uppermost in my mind.Hope this helps you. God Bless.
2007-03-06 09:25:28 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋