relationship?

Question

Ok ladies, I have a question for you. Lets say that you were to break up with a guy that you really loved and had been together with for at least a year or so, and then say four months later or so you guys start talking and you see that he has made a lot of changes for himself and it turns out that he really wants the same things in a relationship that you do. If you're still single at the time, and you know that he has made a lot of changes to help himself and the relationship, would you regret it if you decided not to give him another chance and see where it takes you? Just so you know, we didn't have any problems with cheating or abuse or drugs or anything like, so it was nothing astronomical. So I just would really like to know if you would give a guy another chance if he has shown you that he has really made some changes that will benefit both himself and the relationship.

Answer 1

Sure I'd give him another chance. But I'd have to start slow, no point in rushing into anything. Besides, it takes time to notice change and reach that certain comfort level that every relationship needs. Good luck to you!

Answer 2

OK.. so I'm not a Lady, but I went through a similar situation.. I broke up with a longtime girlfriend, like your situation there wasn't any cheating, drugs, etc.. Just some differences in relationship/life priorities.... Anyway, about 5 months of being broken up we got back together for a chat, both of us had made some changes in our life philosophies (through dating some other people, etc.) and we decided to give it another shot.... We'll be celebrating our 19th wedding anniversary in July of this year.... People do change. sometimes you need to take a break and get some other experiences to not only make some changes yourself but to realize that your "issues" weren't really that big of a deal... Best of luck.

Answer 3

Sure. If you're otherwise uncommitted, go for it. You already know the potential trouble areas, and if you start falling into an old and familiar but unacceptable relationship pattern, then call it quits for good. But all of us need second chances once in a while.

Good luck. It sounds like you really care about him, so I hope it works out.

Answer 4

so what was the problem? i think it depends on the person. If I know they only changed in a desperate attempt to win me back I wouldn't. But if they honestly changed, and its obvious. Not just to me, but to everybody then yes.

This happened with my friend. She gave the guy a second chance and they are happier than they were the first time around.

Answer 5

Of course I would give him another chance. I mean first I would see that the changes are for sure and not some fake for a while, while I took him back. Changes are good sometimes, while you do them for yourself and not for someone else, because if you do them only for someone else, this change won't last, on the other hand if you do it for yourself, these changes might be permanent. *_*

Answer 6

oddly enough, i'm experiencing that right now... he says he's changed and everything, but the other night we get in a fight about the same things we used to get in fights about -- he wont tell me what's wrong and why he's upset. i figured out that there's a reason i broke up with him, and i believe if a problem is big enough to make you break up with someone you REALLY love, it's probably burned into their personality and it isn't going away..

now, we weren't even trying to be together.. he just wanted to be my friend.. since i have a new boyfriend now

Answer 7

If it wasn't drugs, abuse, or cheating what was the problem. Knowing that might help others give you a much better answer rather than guessing.

Answer 8

if i was single at the time..and i saw he made changes, then i would def. give him another chance..most of the time everyone deserves a second chance, people make mistakes and when they realize what they've done they try to make it right, everyone makes mistakes..were only human so i say yea, i'd give it another shot..hope this helped

Answer 9

yes but that person may not want you anymore, even if you have changed. thats just how it is. "if you love someone set them free, if they come back it was meant to be, if not you shouldn't be together" I would like to give credit to the person who came up with that saying but I don't know who it was...But I am not taking credit. Good luck

Answer 10

honey, it pends on what you did to her that made you guys break up in hte first place. keep being yuorself and she will come around. if u honestly changed and you love her than she will regret.