Is the law and government giving children the wrong idea about who is the boss in one's house hold?

Question

I'm talking about a good old fashioned whipping for those of us who were loved but still yet to walk a line

and the older children who do go to school and the parent ends up the one in trouble
this isn't a free country anymore now they even tell us how to raise our children

i have three children and the oldest is 12 she is nice to others she she help the elederly out and she gets good grades i'm not talking about beating and making blood fly i'm talking about correcting there is hardly any kids that respect adults these days respect is earned not given

Answer 1

I'm actually doing a paper on this right now for school. i believe in spanking. I'll send you the paper if you want, i have a rough draft, maybe you could add some points or i could use your opinion somehow.

Answer 2

The government shouldn't have the ability to make laws in regards to child rearing (with exceptions to child abuse). Do they know the child? All children are different and have to be disciplined in some form. They need structure. When my 2 were younger I would give a swat on the butt or hand. How can you teach a child that kitchen appliances are dangerous? You smack their hand. I wouldn't want to have had my kids learn by burning themselves. My son use to put is sister in the dryer and close the door. What do you do? Wag your finger and say bad kid? I asked my 16 year old the other day about his thoughts on spanking. He said that if they have done something wrong they deserve it. Maybe the government should talk to the kids about this issue. As they say "out of the mouths of babes". I personally feel that they would be making a big mistake and costing the tax payers money. Think of it this way, our child services and welfare departments are all ready don't have enough funding they're and under staffed.They would be opening up a huge can of worms.

Answer 3

I believe that a spanking is a good way to discipline a child as long as it is not carried to far. As a child my mother never spanked me hell she rarely disciplined me at all and I in some strange way felt she did not care enough about me to take the time to parent me. I know now that is not the case but in a child's mind she just didn't care.

As for the government. I do know they need laws to protect the abused but I think they do carry them too far sometimes and step on the toes of parents who are just trying to do what is best for their own children.

By the way I have 3 children whom I raised with a pop on the butt when needed. aged 18-21 and they are polite respectable citizens now. I actually enjoy being around them. No drugs, no law breaking, no wild parties, no fighting.

Answer 4

Unfortunately you're correct. We as parents are expected to raise responsible, productive citizens, but we're being denied the tools to make that happen. The court system won't help either. The parent is responsible to pay the fines for the trouble the kid got into.
The only support I've found is with the police. I've had out of control step daughters call the police on me twice for domestic violence. One admitted she assaulted me first, and I had the marks to prove it. She got to spend a night in jail. With the other it was a similar incident. She tried to stop me from taking back something she had broken into my bedroom and stolen. The cop told her he didn't care how I disciplined her, as long as I didn't kill her. I think they're getting tired of all the out of control kids. I just wish all theses liberal morons in the government would catch on.

Answer 5

Yes, I agree. A lot of times the parent tries everything (time outs, taking away t.v., grounding, etc...) And the child still acts up! What's left? You need to spank their butt, and show them YOU are boss in the house, and not them...
This is a typical example of going to extremes... you don't need to beat up the child or humiliate him, just a spanking, it's not gonna leave a bruise or anything. My mom used to spank us when we did something wrong repetedly, after many warnings...
There's no need to be violent,all I'm saying is we should be able to discipline the child and not be afraid that we'll get in trouble with the authorities for doing so.

Answer 6

It is to a point now, and it will definitely be if they outlaw spanking. I personally wouldn't mind them limiting it to the tush, after that we have good laws on the books about not leaving permanent marks other then a temporary red tush. I totally agree with you. People on these boards tend to go mad in regards to spanking. Spanking now days is defined as 1 or 2 swats, well as you know, that just doesn't cut it after the age of 3 or so. Like you, we use a old fashioned method ourselves, if a spanking is earned it's pants down, over the lap. No 1 or 2 swats here. Yes all 3 of my girls have excellent manners, respect, and are always complemented in their behavior. So much so in fact, many other parents we have talked to have also started using our "old fashioned" methods with their children. I can't tell you how many thank yous I have received from parents who know longer have the behavior issues they thought they had to put up with.

Good Luck, thank goodness their are other parents out there with good values.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

I hope you are not referring to that woman who pulled her childs' pants down in front of the class and beat him. There is a difference between popping a child on the butt and abusing them. What that woman did was abuse. There is no reason for a parent to humiliate their child like that. I have never agreed with the government trying to tell anyone how to raise anyone considering they haven't done anything to help their people who are still suffering to this day. I do believe that those parents who strongly believe in "time-out" needs to have intervention. Every child needs their butt popped atleast once in their lifetime, otherwise they will never learn any better. Thank you.

Answer 9

Spanking is no way to teach a child. It shows disrespect for the child and frequently makes them feel bullied. They learn only humiliation, pain, and anger. How can a child learn that showing someone respect does not hurt their pride or cost them any respect from anyone else, if the people that they love don't respect them. I have to very active, intelligent and rambunctious boys. They are polite, respectful, and listen well (not perfectly but better than one would expect for their ages 4, 2). I don't hit them, I rarely yell, time outs are only a break to get control of emotions. I teach! I always say please, thank you, excuse me etc, so they do. I ask them politely to pick up their toys then help them do it, so they always listen because they know what it means to be heard, and listened to. They take their dishes to the sink because I always do, and I ask them politely to. They show everyone they meet respect because I do, because I earn the respect of everyone I meet and am always friendly and kind. I am a good example and I help my boys learn why we do things the way we do. We don't lie because it is "wrong", we preserve the power of our word because we want to be heard. We don't take someone else's things because mom said share, we show them and their things respect because we would want to be treated that way. We don't hit because it hurts the other person, that goes for mom and dad too. I teach my boys how to be men with respect and love. The government is trying to protect little people who can't defend themselves, parents should be smart enough to find another way rather than complaining that the government won't allow them to hurt their children anymore.

Answer 10

Yes...they are. They are taking away our rights and ability to raise our children correctly. They talk about morals and values and then tell us what we can and can't do. Soon they will be telling us what we can feed our children too. We are at the mercy of our children....in so many ways...and they know it.

Answer 11

I agree with you in part. I do think the current legislation makes people afraid to parent and teach children discipline. On the other hand, for kids who are seriously abused I would imagine that to them, state and federal legislation against abuse is a savior.