I don't believe in sex about marriage, but I should be getting married soon and I'm really nervous about having sex and think it'll hurt. So I'd like some advice to help me enjoy my first time and for it to not be too painful. I love my bf dearly and this is nothing to do with him and I know he'll do everything to make it special for me and he will be gentle. I just don't want to let him down on our wedding night. But I'm nervous that it'll hurt.
Anybody with any sensible advice, please let me know.
2007-03-06 05:37:33 · 29 answers · asked by littlepixie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just a little side note:
A couple of people mentioned that your first time will hurt and it hurts for all women. This is not true. My first time didn't hurt at all. I expected it to but I never felt a discomfort. It wasn't great and orgasmic, but it also wasn't physically uncomfortable. Every situation is different for everyone. And many factors are involved such as how aroused you are, how lubricated (naturally or otherwise) you are, his penis size, your masturbating tendencies (vibrater, hand, other, etc.) and so on. Something to consider...during your period do you use tampons or pads? If you use Tampons, you may be more prepared than you think for your first time. Anyway, it's different for everyone. It's natural. Don't worry so much.
2007-03-06 15:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by lobster20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to be nervous about or worried. Just relax and enjoy being with the person you love. Learning about each other is great fun so take your time and enjoy it! Just remember that after the first time you will wonder what all the fuss was about!
Sex gets better over time as you get used to each other so don't expect it to be fantastic the first time, its just not like that.
2007-03-06 05:44:50 · answer #2 · answered by Your Nuts! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is talk to him about it. If you feel that
comfortable with him there shouldn't be any problem. My first time my husband took his time, didn't rush me he made me feel very special that night. He knew I was scared and nervous but that's because I told him. If I didn't tell him how I was feeling I think we both wouldn't have enjoyed it. I didn't experience any pain because I had that worry too. I think it was due to once we started I was so consumed with all these wonderful feelings that nothing was going to stop me from enjoying making love to my husband for the first time. Just take your time and enjoy it! It really is a magical moment with the one person you truly love.
2007-03-06 06:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It most likely will hurt your first time! The best thing to do is just relax and if you know he'll be gentle it will still be a beautiful experience no matter what! You CANNOT let him down! If he loves you he'll do whatever he can for you and he'll just be happy to be with you!
PS try lots of foreplay first, so each of you will be satisfied.
2007-03-06 05:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lindsay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you meant that you don't believe in sex BEFORE marriage, because sex is a key component in any marriage.
The best advise I can give is to relax. Also, get a lubricant like KY Jelly. If you're all tense though, you'll be all tense in your vaginal area, and that will make it very uncomfortable. If your fiance knows it will be your first time, he will do his best to be gentle with you. Don't be afraid to tell him to take it slow if you need to, make sure he does PLENTY of foreplay.
Also, don't feel as though you have to have sex on your wedding night. We were so wiped out from the wedding, reception, etc., that we just crashed.
2007-03-06 05:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, try not to get nervous (it will make you tense up and hurt more) If you can't get rid of the nerves, use them to your advantage - turn them into excitement.
Don't let negative thoughts into your head because it will turn you off.
Relax, put on some sexy music and make sure you "warm up" before hand with fore play.
If it does hurt you, start imagining your sex life in the future. It will start to feel good.
Just make sure you remember, it's a totally natural & normal thing.
Congratulations on the wedding!
2007-03-07 04:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by LauraMarie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was nervous the first time too, and you knwo what? It did hurt. A lot of people say the first time hurts. I didn't find pleasure in it at all. But now it's better. I love it. You just have to take it slow. And if it ends up too painful, just tell him. I really find oral sex before sex tends to lubricate everything better and it's not nearly as painful. Or uncomfortable.
2007-03-06 05:42:36 · answer #7 · answered by J.A. 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Im sorry but it will be uncomforatble the first time. It is for all girls but the more and more you do it the more and more pleasure ul get. There is no way u could ruin ur wedding nite as ur husband will understand this and its about both of ur enjoyment not just one. He loves u and he obvisley respects ur descion so nothing will go wrong just enjoy the day
Congrats
2007-03-06 07:34:51 · answer #8 · answered by sheepish18uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't hurt if he takes it easy on you knowing its your first time. It might be a little uncomfortable though. It's something to get used to. The most important thing to keep in mind is to be open with each other about sexual issues. In the future as the two of you have gotten used to each other's bodies and having sex in general, you can get books and videos(no I don't mean pornos!) to help show you different ways to please each other and learn what each other likes. Keep trying new things with each other, or it might get boring and mundane one day.
2007-03-06 05:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi. Hope this helps
The best thing is to let your bf know how you feel so he is aware of this. If you both make love gently then it will not hurt. I promise. All this about it hurting is true if your boyfriend does't care about how you feel. Making love is a wonderful experience and once you are both married and made love you will enjoy yourselves. From the sounds of it he loves you and i wish you both happiness and the best for the future. My first time did not hurt because i explained how i felt. Please please don't worry
2007-03-06 06:04:19 · answer #10 · answered by Deborah B 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋