Ok well my BF and I of 4 months now are doing really good and we have a very open and well communicated relationship. The thing is, his Roommate has moved out and he needs another one by April to help out to where he can spend time with his friends and kids as well as have the money to do so. He can compltley swing his house and all finaces on his own but there will be little money left to play with. When we meet we both agreed not to rush in or move in to fast or anything like that. I also mentioned that I think I should live on my own for a little while too. Then again now with tax time coming it may not work out in my favor to be able to do so for awhile, which is not good either as I live with roommates. I guess what I need to know it should I even throw out the possibility of living with him? even like a trial thing maybe ? How would I apporach the subject? I dont want to blow a good thing nor scare him off. I am very much a flexable and understaning woman so your input is helpful
2007-03-06 05:33:24 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want to lose him then go ahead. Otherwise do NOT EVER move in with him, until he says "I do." Most marriages that fail lived together before they were married.
2007-03-06 05:38:18 · answer #1 · answered by SmartAlex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really just depends on your relationship. You might just want to offer to move in and help him out until he is able to find someone else (as long as you are given enough time to get your place before the new guy moves in) See how he reacts to this offer. Moving in together is a big deal. I live with my bf and even though when you are apart you want nothing more than to see each other again (especailly when you aren't living together), if you move in with him you will almost have no time alone. So, I am not saying don't do it just give it some thought before you even offer it to him.
2007-03-06 05:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by tinytinkbell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a good side and bad side of living together. the bad side is that you two might not like each other after a while. the good side is .....well that you find out that you two aren't compatible and you two move on or that you two are and the relationship elevates.
it's not exactly easy to live together. if you two are greatly compatible, then you find out that things work out nicely. but a lot of the times you find out that you weren't as compatible as you thought. you two might notice things that you didn't, before moving with each other. and while good communication and open relationships do make this a lot easier to deal with, it doesn't always work out.
it's not so easy to part after you live together either. and it seems like it's an early relationship, so if you two decided to live together it would be a bit risky, but certainly not necessarily a bad thing. ask yourself what you would do if you two split up after finding out that you two simply aren't compatible. what will you do? how will things work out?
i would suggest that you two plan things out so that you two have a backup plan in case this relationship fails after living together for a while. if you two still feel that it's good to pursue this, good luck to both of you. it's not easy, trust me. but it can work out and if it does, it's a beautiful thing.
2007-03-06 05:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by interlude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to just sit and talk to him about it... never hurts to talk. It could go either way and you know how strong the relationship is, go with your gut feeling.
2007-03-06 05:46:42 · answer #4 · answered by happyblonde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people who live together and then get married get divorced.
2007-03-06 05:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by his.grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that time is here you will know, listen to your inner self...
Good Luck,
2007-03-06 05:40:13 · answer #6 · answered by semi273hemi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋