She wears her panties to the sitter and goes all day using the potty, but when she gets home, we ask and ask and even sit her on it every couple hours. She will just go in her pants, so we end up keeping in her in pull ups.
How can we enforce the potty rules at home?
2007-03-06 05:29:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
First, stop putting her in pull-ups...even when she has accidents. You should only use pullups at night until the baby can go all night without wetting.
You need to remain consistent, as the babysitter what she does to get her on the potty and try the techniques at home.
With my son I let him take care of his own wet clothes, we put him in the tub and made him change and wipe himself. It made him want to go on the potty so that he didn't have to take so much time out of his play to change himself.
2007-03-06 05:33:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not a question of enforcing rules. Potty training isn't that rigid. Potty training is about consistency and apparently the sitter is consistent and you are not. First of all, you don't ask. At her age, she's probably very regular. Tell her, in a positive way, that it's potty time around the time that she usually has a bowel movement. As you know yourself, you can urinate quite often. Tell her it's time to go potty every so often so she can urinate. Stop giving her the choice. She's only 2 1/2 and she doesn't have that kind of judgement yet.
Talk to the sitter and find out her schedule for potty and any tricks she might be using. She'll be happy to help you I'm sure. And remember! Be consistent! That's the key. Also, don't fool yourself. Stop using pullups during the day. They are simply diapers. Use them for night time only. They are a crutch. I didn't use them even at night. I used the heavy underwear with rubber pants. That way, we ended up having less nighttime accidents sooner too. It helped train the muscles to hold it.
2007-03-06 05:35:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had this same problem with my son. He would go all day on the potty at daycare but at home was not interested. This is what they told me to do. It worked within a week. Take her to the potty every hour whether she has to go or not. Do not use pull ups. Get her some training pants. They are heavier than undies. Put her in those and if she wets herself or poopies in them, make her change her own clothes. They get tired of having to change their clothes and see what an inconvience it is so they just figure they my as well go on the potty. Good Luck! This technique worked for me.
2007-03-06 06:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem...I even do exactly like my daycare provider does...my mom has my son 2 days a week, and he does it for her as well. He is 2-1/2 also. Don't ask if they want to go potty..t.ell her. Make up a reward system.
2007-03-06 06:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by mommy_2_liam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the pull-ups. At the sitters she has learned she has no other choice but to go potty but at home she has a choice and she's choosing the pull-ups. Get rid of them--completely! Yes, it will be messy for a bit, yes, there will be tantrums, but it will work.
2007-03-06 05:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by jilldaniel_wv 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
DONT put her in pull ups, shes not stupid she knows that eventually u will put her in pull ups so she will wet herself to get in them because its the easier option for her. Keep putting her in pants. Her babysitter is obviously more strict on potty training than u, your daughter ant taking u seriously. Take her to the potty every 30mins. Use star charts and stickers
2007-03-06 07:11:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your (very smart) daughter is probably not happy about the fact that she is left by her parents with a babysitter all day and is using the tiny, limited way she can to express her unhappiness and have some control (since she can't control being away from you so often)...
That's the truth, you've got to look into the deeper, more difficult realities of why children act or act out in the way they do. You also have no idea what is being done at the babysitter's house to enforce the potty behavior, how can you know if you are not there? Sad that you can't know what is happening in your little girl's life day in and day out -- this is such a formative time for the rest of her life when habits, values and an understanding of life are being shaped -- not by you primarily.
But anyway, it's obviously odd that she will perform such a basic, important human action consistently in one place and not in the other -- try to get to the root of the problem instead of looking for cute tricks to trick her into avoiding what you see as annoying behavior vs. what is actually a call for help and attention from mommy and daddy.
I've seen this happen with other friends who leave their babies (a 2 1/2 yr old is a baby, and who knows how long she's been on her own with a stranger to the family) and the babies then cry and cry when they're with the parents, or ignore the parents altogether, refuse to eat like they do at the daycare, sitters, w/the nanny, etc.
Imagine if your spouse left you for a week with a strange man or woman to replace them and what your spouse is supposed to do for you (listen, cuddle, help you, etc) -- you would act very hostile / troubled toward them when they nonchalantly just returned, and imagine if this became your new lifestyle -- every other week you dreaded the feeling of abandonment that you could do nothing about.
Try "enforcing" parent rules first, like raising the child you decided to have, before trying to enforce rules on that child at "home" when she is only there a few hours a day and thus it is not really her "home." (Hope the blunt honesty really helps you and your family, it's intended to really get you to get to the core of the issue).
2007-03-06 06:13:48 · answer #7 · answered by Finnale 2 · 0⤊ 6⤋
make it fun to use the faciltiy. give rewards for its use....Candy works well. Praise your child when he/she uses the potty, but definately do not chastise when he/she does not. You may want to ask your babysitter what technique he/she is using also and duplicate it at home. Consistancy and routine is all important when dealing with children.
2007-03-06 05:47:26 · answer #8 · answered by caryh30 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's fine. She will learn. 0 0
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2007-03-06 08:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem with my 3 year old daughter i have tried spanking her and everything nothing works i thing it is becasue she knows she can get away with it
2007-03-06 06:05:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋