me(21) and my babe(19) have been on break for about two weeks now. i went to hang out with him last night after work and another friend sent me a text message. he is a guy but nothing is going on, and i havent been with other guys while we took this break. we argue a lot and i did just turn 21 so he is worried about the bar situation and thats why we split for a while. we needed time. anyway we were hanging out and he freaked about the text message. i dunno why, but im getting at that he "hates that im literally single" not that he doesnt want me back but the single part is bothering him more. so after he freaked i just finished my beer and left back to my place. that was around midnight. he showed up at my apt around 3 am and wanted to talk. so i let him in and he just said that he wanted things to be over for good. i got a little sad and we started just talking about things and i was tellin him that i would be ok. still friends blah blah blah. he leaned over to hold me and we both
2007-03-06 05:29:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
layed there holding each other so long we fall asleep in each others arms. when we woke up we had sex and now im just really confused. what is really going on?
2007-03-06 05:29:47 · update #1
It sounds like he himself is just as confused as you are.
Tell him how that night made you feel unsure what he really wants from you.He may actually still want the relationship but doesn't know how to go about it.I think the two of you still have a chance at saving the relationship, but need to have a heart to heart talk about things.I wish you much luck.You need to talk to him.The two of you are the only ones who are going to able to figure out what is going on.
2007-03-06 05:41:27 · answer #1 · answered by kandn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both have feelings for each other and would rather be together but he is a bit younger and age is different in women as in guys. He is 19 but in heart he is only 15 so he is still not trusting you and reveling but if you give yourself to him he will take you because he likes you!!
Few guys are really mature and trusting to a woman who has more freedom than them......besides he still thinking sex is #1 and might think is the same for you and going to bars meeting older men, sex may be an option even if you don't think this way and try to tell him!!
Hey.......good luck but until you stop having feelings for him or him for you......you are going to have drama popping here and popping there!!!
Once again good luck!!!
2007-03-06 14:54:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is going on is he doesn't want to lose a good thing...the sex.
At 21, you are too old for him. You are at the age where women have tremendous growth on a personal level, however as a guy he is still 5-6 years away. Very soon you two will have very little in common other than sex.
Time to move on for you.
2007-03-06 13:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lord only knows what goes through guys's heads. I dated a guy that was 1 year younger when I turned 21, and he always gave me a hard time about drinking and going out, etc. Hypocritical thing is, he went out and drank all the time as soon as he had a 21st b-day (after we broke up). @$$. There's a few options:
1.) He wanted sex
2.) He wants you back
3.) He felt bad for hurting you and saying he didn't want to be with you, so he had sex with you. Pretty lame.
In a nutshell, he wants to break up with you, but doesn't want to hurt you (not possible). Let him go. He said he doesn't want to be with you. So why did he have sex with you? He's a guy. He has 2 heads, and he was thinking with one, and not the other. Essentially, he used you. You deserve better.
RIGHT ON Just a friend!
2007-03-06 13:36:08 · answer #4 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From what it sounds like is that you are blinded by the "good times" you have with your ex-boyfriend (the cuddling, loving, talking, etc.); but you keep forgetting that his temper is the problem with the relationship.
Maybe you should make a pro and con list and see where your relationship falls. It might help you figure out what is going on between the two of you.
2007-03-06 13:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh no, complicated situation!
i see that ya'll obviously have feelings for eachother. but he seems abit on the immature side. especially if he's getting worked up over a little text message. where's the trust?
in my opinion, you need to find yourself a man, honey! ditch the little boys. it's always good to go for a guy atleast a couple years older than you.. they tend to be more experienced (not just sexually!) but in reality they know more about life.. for the most part!
goodluck and god bless!
2007-03-06 13:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
both of you have hormones flying around and want eachother but you are both not working together on what is really bothering you two. look closely at what you want from eachother and be honest about it. that creates the best relationships. start with being really truthful to yourself. you would not have had sex with him if you didn't want to, so think harder!! Good luck!
2007-03-06 13:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by freebird31wizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not one to judge but most couples have what they call the "break up sex", so maybe that was what happened. But just to be on the safe side, I would ask him is it over or what.
2007-03-06 13:33:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh well it could be break up sex.. if ur really confused n stuff then talk to him and see if he still feels the same way thats the only way ur ever gonna know!! good luck!
2007-03-06 13:32:58 · answer #9 · answered by short stuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're maturing at a different rate than he is. You're more capable of dealing with issues as an adult.
But you screwed up having sex with him because you're the one confusing issues. It should have ended last night.
2007-03-06 13:35:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋