i have been in a long term relationship for 5 years and love him . but i lust for another guy that he also knows.I know i shouldn't be doing it but i feel not loved sometimes.My friend pays attention to me all the time and i feel good.i dont wont to leave my boyfriend because i have to kids eith him
2007-03-06 05:21:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow hun thats a tough one well what i would do is go to your boyfriend and tell him that you are missing things in your relationship try to talk to him and if nothing changes after a while lets say 6 months to a year then maybe you do need to move on i was with a guy for two years and we had everything exept sometimes i felt like dating others and he didnt treat me the way i wanted to be treated all the time but it was cus he couldnt give me what i needed in a relationship he couldnt give me support and comfort and i needed trust and he couldnt give me that (which by the way i think those things are vital in a relationship just like the need to feel loved)
but i felt like i couldnt give up a relationship that had so much history
well finally i did it and it hurt so bad i felt like my heart had been ripped out but i ended it and you know what happened i started dating a long time friend and i swear it was the best change in my life it felt like i up graded from a good boyfriend to the best boyfriend that i really love
i know its so hard and i cant even imagine how it would be to let 5 years go and you have kids but i think you need to try to make this work and if it doesnt change then you need to let it go its what is the best for everyone
2007-03-06 05:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same boat. The other guy just gave me more attention. I wanted attention!!! The feeling passed for me only after I made a mistake of leaving the one I love. Don't leave the one you love for the one you like, bc the one you like will leave you for the one they love. That's what happened to me. Play the wait-n-see approach. Good luck!
2007-03-06 05:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After the age of 18, do not invest more than 2 - 3 yrs in a relationship without marriage...Never have kids out of wedlock..
Always get a pre-nup for your own protection in event of divorce or death....
In your case....
Do not cheat in addition to your current list of mistakes...
2007-03-06 05:25:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful if there are children involved, Don't lose everything because of a fling, that would be tragic, if you feel like your boyfriend is not loving you enough talk to him, sometimes thats all it takes. If at that point nothing chages maybe you should move on, no one should ever feel unloved.
2007-03-06 05:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by smiles_amile 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with yourself and with your boyfriend. Try and find creative ways together to "spice up" your relationship so that you never feel like you have to go somewhere else for love
2007-03-06 05:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by Leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The grass always looks greener on the other side until you get there and find out you wasted a trip...
It's ok to look, Just don't touch...
Good Luck,
2007-03-06 05:33:44 · answer #6 · answered by semi273hemi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful all the relations start with grate attension.
u might need to look for a change or make a differnet in ur old relation not to go for a new one
2007-03-06 05:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex-buddy is good, since it's just lust. ask your boyfriend to have a 3-some, with the guy you lust with. It'll be an interesting experience.
2007-03-06 05:31:15 · answer #8 · answered by my alias 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's natural to lust for other people. Just because you can't eat chocolate doesn't mean you don't want it.
2007-03-06 05:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by *VS* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you live, there will be things out there to tempt you.
Stay faithful! You will always want what you can't have!
2007-03-06 05:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋