He works, I stay home all day and take care of the baby....It's a blessing, I know, but do you ever feel inadequate?? How do you deal with that?
2007-03-06 05:20:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anna 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
i feel like that. i stay at home with the kids ad do house work and everything but i still fell like i am not contributing to everything the way he does. he always tells me that i am teaching the kids and taking care of everything and it is much more work then he does. he says his job is only 8 or 9 hours and mine is 24/7. he does help at home though.
2007-03-06 05:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly how you feel; my husband works outside the home, and I stay at home with our 2 1/2 yo, 9 month old, and we have a baby on the way. It's a huge full time job and that is what makes us great moms, because we are willing to sacrifice for our children. I think it is so important to take care of yourself and make time for something you enjoy. I feel "recharged" so to speak, and ready to take on the day when I've had a little "me" time. Join a mom group in your area and schedule regular play dates so the little ones can play and the moms can talk and relax. If you don't have one close by, then try to start one. Go on a walk, start a hobby or just take a bubble bath. It's not easy, but the benefits are astounding. No paycheck could ever amount to the benefits we receive from being part of our children's lives. Take heart, you're doing the right thing.
2007-03-06 13:47:05 · answer #2 · answered by madisons_mommy520 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ive been home throughout my whole pregnancy, im 25 weeks now, and i can't stand that feeling! I feel like he works so hard and i don't do anything, espeacially since I have more bills then him, so he pays all my credit cards and phone, I get hot now that im pregnant and i don't even want to turn the a/c on because i know he has to pay the bill. thats awful! I want to go back to work after the baby b/c these feelings. I always wanted to stay at home and have someone take care of me, but I changed my mind. there should be a stay at home support group, just for things like this. wait... he might be more stressed out having to pay all the bills! Aaahhhh!!!!
2007-03-06 13:44:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
HAHAHA everyday!!! Welcome to being a stay at home mom! Im a stay at home mom of 2 sons and 2 step sons. Im also 24 weeks pregnant with boy number 5. We have been married for 5 years and our kids are 8,6,6,4 and of course the one on the way :) Its very very stressful at times. Last night i had the breakdown of my life, i yelled at my hubby for boiling cream over on the stove. It was nuts lol. It was everywhere and i was pissed because of course I have to clean it or it doesnt get done. Well he ended up cleaning the stove better than i EVER have LOL! Im responsible for all the laundry, homework, class projects, errands, shopping, usually the meals, so i wish i was to be paid for all i do, id be rich. And no matter how much i vent to my hubby he thinks his job is just as hard as me. Yet he drives around in a work truck all day, fixing dart boards, pool tables, and collecting money, and having a few drinks between. LOL i dont get the pleasure of being "social" with people. But i take what i do with pride. Theres no greater joy in life, and no matter how hard things get, they always seem even better the next day. Im always looking for ways to improve my life, so i can improve the life of my boys. Hope one day i might get a "break" but not anytime soon. Hey i actually got out to see a movie last weekend LOL. thats amazing i dont think ive been out in months. But in the end its all worth it. Just do what you can, dont over do things, dont feel like you need to be superwoman. and stand up for yourself. When you need help let your hubby know. If he doesnt listen, yell a little louder HAHAHAHA Goodluck huni!
2007-03-06 14:22:21 · answer #4 · answered by jess_n_flip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think all of us stay at home moms struggle with this question at one time or another. Check into how much money a nany gets paid, then add to it the bill of a house cleaning service and so on and so on all the things that you do, add them up, and you ralize that you spouce could not afford you if he had to pay you.
Not to mention how do you put a price on the love your baby gets from just being close to you. It is our duties as mothers to provide the best we can for our babies, and that is worth a lot more than the paycheck your husband brings home.
2007-03-06 13:29:19 · answer #5 · answered by ms.underestimated. 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Just because i don't punch in a time card doesn't mean my days are not full of work. I take care of our child, our home and the bills and the other million of things that needs to be done.
I know i contribute. I don't feel like i don't help at all. I don't sit on my butt all day long. My husband has even said to me that he couldn't do what i do.
2007-03-06 13:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I wouldn't feel bad at all.
You are taking care of an infant (more than a full time job) plus cooking, cleaning and basically keeping the household functioning. That is a HUGE job. You probably work physically and mentally harder at your job then he does at his. Feel proud of yourself and never feel inadequate. You have the most important job in the world..you're being a good mom!!
2007-03-06 13:26:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't feel comfortable being in any mom's groups or anything. I read blogs, many by other stay-at-home mothers. I used to have a big hangup about not contributing anything financially, but I eventually got over it.
2007-03-06 13:30:11 · answer #8 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well..I take care of the house, the animals, the bills, the shopping and all other errands that need to be done.
2007-03-06 13:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you had to pay someone to do all the things you do you would realize just how important you are. And most importantly, you are raising your child.
2007-03-06 18:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋