HE HAS BEEN HURT IN THE PAST BY GIRLS THAT GO BOTH WAYS AND I REALLY DONT KNOW HOW TO BREAK IT TO HIM IM ALWAYS HINTING BUT HE DONT GET IT PLUS I HAVE A LADY ON THE SIDE BUT HE JUST THINKS ITS MY BESTFRIEND I WOULD LOVE FOR ALL THREE OF US TO HAVE FUN BUT I JUST DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL HIM HELP ME PLEASE
2007-03-06 05:10:34 · 11 answers · asked by lan3na89 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not to make fun of your boy friend but That is very weird. I would consider myself ******* lucky lol. He is lucky and he dont even know it.
2007-03-06 06:36:26 · answer #1 · answered by Bandit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a toughy....Now in his past bi relationships, has the girlfriends ever experimented with him and the other girl and then eventually left or did they tell him they were bi and then literally went bye or what ?? From your answers to that is dependent upon how you tell him....If they just told him they were bi and literally went bye after that, then you should have all three of you over alone and see where things go (sounds fun....actually) and hopefully he'll get the hint if not explain afterwards that you've been bi and based on your good experience you just had, it's safe to say your not going anywhere. That's if his past ex's haven't had their fun and took off with the girl afterwards. If that is the case, maybe sit him down and talk to him about it instead of jumping right into things. Good luck and hope he listens and you guys have fun !!!
2007-03-06 13:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to straight out tell him!
I don't think there is a way around telling someone what your sexual preference is.
Be honest!
Don't hurt him like all the other bi girls he's talked about.
Maybe now isn't the time to tell him that you want to have a three way fun night but definitely tell him your interested in women.
2007-03-06 13:17:38 · answer #3 · answered by Jackie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...you are lying to him and having sex with someone else, right? So you have three choices:
1.Be honest and hope he can accept it (and maybe join in if you want-make sure he feels involved though)
2. Continue lying-a path that will eventually end your relationship
3. Find a more open-minded boyfriend-I know it would suck to dump him but you have needs too-needs that no one should tell you are wrong by the way
I never advocate lying in a relationship-it's better to find a different relationship.
I don't really get that excited over two girls together, but I sure as hell wouldn't turn down a threeway!!
Would you let him penetrate your friend? Oral w/her on him?
If no, you might not want to do it-he may become very jealous
2007-03-06 13:21:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First take your CAPS LOCK OFF please. No need to yell and if the shift key is an issue, all lower case is much easier on the eyes. Thanks!
On to your question...you need to end this and move on. You're cheating on him which shows a total lack of respect and feelings for him. Why even stay in a relationship with someone you have so little regard for?
You've also okay'd yourself to be cheated on, so no griping if that occurs down the road.
You should be up front with people before you get seriously involved with them...then there's no issue. Cheating is never the answer, nor is lying or having secrets.
What comes around, goes around...are ya ready for the karma?
2007-03-06 13:18:24 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, he obviously doesn't think that it would be "fun" for all three of you to do "stuff" (you know what I mean), and he is obviously going to be uncomfortable with your sexuality, so I'd suggest that you break up with him, or lose the "lady on the side." Somebody is going to get hurt here (I apologize for the talk-show-host-like-tone) and in any case, you're going to be, as the one in the middle. One of them has got to go-- you decide. Which do you love more? Which is there only for sex?
2007-03-06 13:15:15 · answer #6 · answered by -- 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest with him. Even if it hurts him. He's gone though it B4 so you no more then the others that have already gave it to him. If he liked a girl & he wanted to be with her ,you can bet your behind he'll leave you or just be with her with out telling you. Be honest you are who you are and that's , that!.
2007-03-06 13:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be up front with him and tell him that you are bi and that you would like to share your girl with him maybe he won't be so mad if you kinda use your girl as a present.
2007-03-06 13:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are three options, either choose one of them( and I strongly recommend you to keep the guy) or just don't tell him,or the third option is to be smart and ask him the (what if?) questions,
For example, pretend to be jocking and ask him "What if i'm Bi?"
and similar questions, only then you'll find the solution
2007-03-06 13:26:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"girl why do u have a man if ur bi?" --- inhabitedlova631
If one did not 'have a man', one would not be bi.
Get your gf over for an accidental encounter and see if he goes for it.
2007-03-06 13:20:03 · answer #10 · answered by Holden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋