My bf broke up with me over 2 months ago. I accused him of lying and it turns out he wasn't. I know - big mistake. We split for one month, then I started to want him back. We've been seeing each other for 6 weeks now; I've seen him every week (6 times), but we don't communicate on the phone that much anymore. It's like wer'e friends I guess, but I've told him I want him back. He said I have to take it slow and he's not keeping me on a string, but I think 6 weeks is a long time for him to decide what he wants. Is this too long? Do people stay split for this long and get back together or am I being too optimistic. I'm hoping that the time we spend together will increase and we'll get back together.
2007-03-06 05:08:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unless your hot or he is a looser don't try it until he does. Flirt for a while he may come around.
2007-03-06 05:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by LJD4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you need to leave the ball in his court. Let him make this decision of wanting you back. Afterall you made a mistake ........now if you want him you will have to wait as long as it takes. If you made it clear already to him that you made a mistake, explained your reasoning why and let him know how you feel and you would want the opportunity to show him how you feel for him, then leave it at that. Go on about your business. Don't sit by the phone and wait for him. Let him do the pursuing now. If he wants you he will make the moves. You sound too desperate right now and very unattractive. The fact that you still see him at all is a good sign so do what he wants take it slow. Too much pressure on your part and you'll ruin the chance you still have with him. Be patient!!
2007-03-06 05:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by ilisalec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time ur spending is the oposite of what you think. He's getting the best of both worlds when he's able to date you and others sort of speak. I would limit the time I spent with him if I were you, and let him chase you. Stop throwing yourself out there because the more you do, the longer he can take knowing that ur waiting on him. Just slowly start to drift away from him and see what his reaction is. And if he asks you whats going on just simply say that "I thought you werent interested anymore, so I decided to leave you alone". Trust me, leaving him alone right now isnt the easiest, but it'll end this situation sooner than you think.
2007-03-06 05:15:51 · answer #3 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you gave your bf a chance to prove he wasn't lying or not perhaps you should have.
I cannot speak for all men, but men usually have egos and when it gets bruised we become very defensive.
In other words now it is you who have something to prove.
If this is true love it will come, if not think of it as a detour on the road to happiness
2007-03-06 05:26:25 · answer #4 · answered by John P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six weeks yes I think is plenty. If nothing has happened at this point, it's not going to. I would go ahead and move on, even if that's painful, that way you can do what you want for awhile and then meet someone who's really nice etc...ok, so you made a mistake; but for someone to make you pay for it like that doesn't sound like someone you'd want to stay with anyway. Good luck and best wishes!
2007-03-06 05:15:41 · answer #5 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You both have to learn to trust each other again. It's easier for you, since you now know he wasn't untrustworthy in the first place. Harder for him, since you were the one who made the false accusation. Let him go at his pace. Slow is okay. In the meantime, though, do some nice things for him.
2007-03-06 05:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push him. The more you push, the more likely you will not get back together. Take it slow. Things could be better a second time around.
2007-03-06 05:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by KS 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him time. He needs to regain his trust in you, and you need to trust him again. He doesn't want to get hurt again by being accused of something again later down the road. Tell him that you care about him, and that you're ready when he is.
2007-03-06 05:14:03 · answer #8 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's either still po'd because of your accusations and doesn't want to be hurt by you again no matter how he feels about you or he's gonna string you along for as long as he wants just to get back at you and then dump you. who knows just wait and see.
2007-03-06 05:13:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u missed up....but give him time ok he will come around some he just dont want to go back into the same relationship with you again he wants to know that u really trust him this time
2007-03-06 05:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by Chocolit B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋