I am in love with a guy who was working with me. Now i have quite the company & we are serious about this, would like to get married too. But now my mum is looking for a "PERFECT" Match for me who is Mr. Perfect in all ways. She also does know about my BF being my friend & i think she also knows that I might be interested in him. She is not interested in this as i told she is looking for Mr. Perfect. She also told me not to go too close to him cos i wouldn't want to him later. Talking to her about this will hurt her & i dont want to hurt her. My BF insist on me telling my parents about this to go further as his parents have agreed to this & are not ready to support us if my parents dont agree, but i'm sure that my parents will not agree to this & i dont want to hurt them as they have gone thro enough in life & i dont want to hurt them from my end. I am confused looking for help. How do I tell my parents about by BF or how do i go about with this?
2007-03-06 05:08:39 · 9 answers · asked by Lucky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I definately don't think you should marry this guy without telling your parents. Parents usually always just want the best for their children and your parents may just be scared to lose you...I know that's how my mom is. Just sit down with them and be totally honest with them...it may be hard for them to hear, but by you being genuine they'll learn to respect you so much more. If they are really against you being with this guy later, I would say to respect their wishes and wait for a while. There is no need to rush into marriage...and unless they are really concerned about your decision and think something is seriously wrong...they should trust you to do the right thing. I think that by respecting the way your parents feel..it will show them that you really do care about them and don't want to hurt them...and that's the first step to helping them change their minds about your boyfriend.
2007-03-06 05:15:19 · answer #1 · answered by Leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why to keep confusing urself in if's & but's? Tell your parents the truth. Atleast you won't regret later on that you never got a chance to let your parents know that you loved someone.
2007-03-06 06:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by Regency 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents always want the best for their kids but they have to understand that you may not see eye to eye on the 'ideal prospect' for marriage.
As to hurting her: You cannot emotionally hurt someone who does not allow you to! Do not let the old emotional blackmail scam dissuade you from trying to reach your happiness. Your mom will eventually get over your decision to get married with whom your see fit.
2007-03-06 05:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly feel you are adult enough to enter into a committed relationship, then you are adult enough to sit down with your parents and introduce your boyfriend as the person you intend to marry and continue your adult life with. Parents don't get to choose the spouses of their children. Parents are supposed to raise their children to make decisions and choices in their lifes and accept their mistakes and learn from them and grow from them. You need to sit down with your family and your boyfriend and approach this as adults. Your family needs to accept your boyfriend as the person you are in love with and try to learn to like him and eventually love him as a son-in-law. Good luck to you and God Bless.
2007-03-06 05:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take all the time you need to explain to your parents. They are never going to want their "little girl" to marry. This guy is taking their daughter away. It IS your choice though. Your parents should accept it if they truly want you to be happy.
2007-03-06 05:19:52 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like your maturity level is high enough for you to make a decision.
2007-03-06 05:13:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give ur parents some time... maybe take them out to eat with ur BF and get to know him too... the better they know him the better chance u have. !!!! hope i helped.
2007-03-06 05:12:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents will grow to like the guy just don't give up hope
2007-03-07 02:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by Smurfett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not your mother's decision, it's yours. You don't have to ask her permission. You can tell her your decision.
If she doesn't like it, that's her problem, not yours.
2007-03-06 05:15:17 · answer #9 · answered by jplrvflyer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋