How soon into a relationship can you actually love someone?
I am seeing a new guy (1 month) and he keeps dropping the "L- Word" on a fairly regular basis. It is mostly in a casual way or uses it in phrases like "I am lovin' you baby" things like that. I am wondering if it is something he is actually feeling or just saying...
I haven't dropped the "L" bomb yet at all not even playfully but that doesn't meant those feelings won't come.
We have not had sex yet or really even gotten close to doing the deed. He told me last night that I am "worth waiting for"...
What do you think?
2007-03-06 05:05:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i suggest that you take things at your own pace but keep your guard up. a lot of men these days will say i love you just to get what he wants. im not saying that the guy you are dating is one of these men but since you've only known him for a month, it is best that you take your time on getting to know him better rather than making a mistake and end up getting hurt in the end.
just enjoy his company for now and see where it goes. but if you ask me, "i am lovin' you baby" is far from "i love you".
2007-03-06 05:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by sheilanmanny12 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
*LoL* Aw he's trying to sweep you off your feet to get some....LMAO may not be the case but it sounds like it. He could actually really care for you and be willing to wait but 9 times out of 10, he's only saying that because he knows what you want to hear and is willing to do whatever it takes to get into your pants sooner then doing his daily yeah whatever routine. I believe a month is WAY toooo early to be dropping those 3 little words playfully or otherwise. "Masks" don't come off for another 3-4 months from now. But it's ultimately your decision. Again he could be totally smitten by you but then at the same time he could be whispering sweet nothings to get what he wants in the end.
2007-03-06 13:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that the "L word" is not to be played around with becuase if u do eventually fall in love with this guy u want it to be special when U can finally say it back but since he used it on a regular basis then it will be hard tomake that moment special...I think that its flattering that he said he wil wait for u but thequestion is will u wait for him. you dont know if this relationship is going to last so u dont just want to give ur heart away peice by peice. Because the dude u end up marrying wont have ur hole heart because u gave it out. So talk to him see what he thinks...Hope I helped a little.
2007-03-06 13:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by jollyrancher1992 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait to say it. If said too early it loses its meaning. It becomes a habit, not something special that you say when you're feeling it. It turns into that thing you have to say at the end of the conversation because you always have, not because you actually do.
My ex started saying it after like, a week of dating. He said that it was because he was excited about having someone to say it to. I don't think that he meant it that early, and I sometimes doubt that he ever did.
It sounds like he respects you and really cares about you, but if him saying the L-word makes you uncomfortable, then tell him to cool it. If he says you're worth waiting for, then he'll be okay with taking it slow.
2007-03-06 13:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is just using a figure of speech if he says "I'm loving you baby." But in my experience, guys who say "I love you" too soon are trying to manipulate, are desperate, and hiding something. Don't sleep with him too soon, it will just mess up your head, and make you feel like you love him when you really don't (we women just seem to be wired that way.) And it can cause you to overlook character flaws in him that you should not overlook. Be careful, and good luck!
2007-03-06 13:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by Susan H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
L-word means lesbian. You are not worth waiting for. The man is gay.
2007-03-06 13:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. X 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
To early, get to know him better
2007-03-06 13:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by Grant 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will know when you love someone... dont feel bad if he tells you he loves you first. Say it when your ready!
2007-03-06 13:09:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES
2007-03-06 13:07:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋