I've been dating my boyfriend for 16 months, and have been living together for 7 months. My boyfriend is 34 and I am 24. He has a 30yr old and a 33 year old male roommates. Both roommates have been living with him for 5yrs. My boyfriend has no extra baggage. The "Intimacy" is not there anymore, and I see NO signs of an engagement. What is up with him? Should I move out or stay and work on things?
2007-03-06 05:05:25 · 13 answers · asked by elaise11 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think u should talk to him about how u feel be4 u decide to up and leave him
2007-03-06 05:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out. Why should he do anything different if he is getting everything right now while single? Give him a reason to want more don't be so easy. If your not getting something you want tell let him know he isn't a mind reader number 1 lesson in a relationship learn to talk (communicate). Now I don't understand how you can have intimacy with two other men there. You also need to keep in mind you've only been dating a little over a year older men take their time with that kind of stuff especially if they have been burned before. Best thing to do is move out and let him know how you feel if he wants something serious from you he will need to work on getting there. You need to see progress or you'll move on. Don't waste your time with him if he wants to leave things as is.
2007-03-06 13:13:01 · answer #2 · answered by ilisalec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, 16 months may still be a little early for him for an engagement, unless you guys have been talking about it. If there's not even intimacy, then an engagement would even be further away. Maybe there is no intimacy because of the roomates? have you guys thought of going out and havinng your own place? That might make things more comfortable for the both of you. Your relationship is in need of communication, and if it still doesn't work....then it's time time to move on. Make sure both of you are clear of what you want in the relationship.
2007-03-06 13:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to communicate with him. Ask him where he see's things going. You will never know unless you ask him. If he is serious then maybe suggest that it is time to get rid of the roomates. Living together is a commiment in it self so don't doubt that. Sometime men pull back sexually, if they are experencing stress at work or family. It all boils down to talking with him. Relationships aren't easy and never perfect. Everyday can't be like the first. If you didn't have rainy days, how could you appreciate the sunny ones!!!!! Give the man a chance to explain to you what he is feeling before you jump ship.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-06 13:12:50 · answer #4 · answered by momma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really think that theres no chance that its going anywhere then u should leave. if ur not happy then theres no reason for u to be unhappy, find sumthing that makes u happy. if u really wanna try and work things out with him then u should really talk to him about it. trust me my boyfriend has a room mate and although im not living there yet or anything when the room mate is home and im there spending the nite.. lol my my will only have sex at nite n we have to be quite. its polite i wouldnt wanna hear the roomate n his gf or sumthing either but if its really that big of a deal jus talk or leave.. the choice when all is said n done is up ta!
2007-03-06 13:25:44 · answer #5 · answered by short stuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it could be a problem if the intimacy is gone already but it must also be difficult having two roomates underfoot at all times. You have to discuss it with him. Maybe he just feels bored by it all.
2007-03-06 13:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the magic is gone, the relationship is gone. Relationships can become mundane, its true, but people stay in mundane realtionships because they are still happy with the other person. If you're not happy with the guy, it's time to move on.
2007-03-06 13:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you talk this out with him? He's really the only one who can answer "what is up with him".
If you can't have this talk with him, you're better off moving on. Communication is after all, a very important part of any relationship.
2007-03-06 13:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds kida gay. Kick him to the curb and quit wasting time you could be spending with a real man.
2007-03-06 13:10:13 · answer #9 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have to ask this question, it's time to move on. Something's missing.
2007-03-06 13:09:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋