Should I try and talk to him???

Question

So me and my ex broke up about two months ago. He said half of him still loved me but half just wanted to be friends and I was like fine lets break up then. I know where I'm not wanted. But he said we would still be friends. And we were for the next few days but then he told me something that really upset me, that he knew before Christmas break that we weren't going to work. Well two weeks before Christmas break was the first and only time doing things together. And yet he told me even during and after Christmas break that he still loved me. He basically used me. Two weeks after he got what he wanted he knew "us" wasn't meant to be. It was both of our first time we are both in high school. After I told him he used me he got really upset. I told him I was sorry and shouldn't have told him that but that it is what I think happened. Since then he doesnt look at me, or talk to me unless I ask him a direct question. Should I try and talk to him to ask him if thats why he won't be my friend?

We have mutual friends so I see him everyday at school. He said we would be friends but now that he is acting weird it makes things awkward. I’ll be standing right next to him and he doesn’t look or say one word to me. I wouldn’t mind so much if I never saw him but we even have a class together. I want things to be normal amongst my friends and it would be allot less stressful if he would just be my friend. When he acts like this it makes me feel like I don’t belong because he doesn’t really open up the conversation to me and if I do say something he basically ignores it. His friend said he might still be mad about me saying he used me, but I don’t see what’s wrong with saying something if it’s true. (My ex never denied it, he just said if that’s what you want to think.) Should I talk to him and try and find out whats wrong or just let things go on like this??? I have tride to be his friend and haven't brought up the relationship in more then a month.

Answer 1

Its a very tricky situation u seem to be in, but honestly i am a guy myself so i will give u the low down from a guys point of view. Best thing to do is to give him space, trust me, there is nothing more annoying then an ex asking u questions on why things are not the way he said they wud be. Back off and wait for him to come, trust me, sooner or later he will start talking to you. I am pretty sure he didnt use u, he felt he liked u, and after u two made love, well guess he maybe just shyed away. Most girls think having sex with their boyfriend brings them closer together, truth is, 90% of the time it pushes the boy away. So just relax, and things will be fine, dont try and make things work as you will only end up making things worse.
Hope that made sense.

Answer 2

It doesn't sound like he's interested in being your friend. He did use you. It's better to break up as soon as you realize it's not working, no matter what the day, or holiday. I broke up with my ex the night before Christmas Eve (but granted, a week before that he was willing to "re-evaluate the relationship." Whatev), and yea my timing was bad, but there was no sense whatsoever in postponing it until the day after Christmas. He did use you hun, and he has no right to be mad at you for saying so. Props to you for standing your ground. Now he's trying to make your mutual friends choose between you and him. If your friends are going to choose sides, then they weren't your friends. You don't want to be friends with a guy like this. He's jerking you around, which it sounds like is what he does best. Move on, and enjoy your drama-free life without him. That's the best revenge.

Answer 3

Just one more example of what happens when teenagershave sex before they are ready. He had sex with you even though he know he wasn't going to be with you forever. And you had sex with him and you really need to admit to yourself that you also did not think this relationship was the one and only you will ever have in your life. So did you use him? You both used eachother, him for sex, you for the attention he gave you and now it is over. What is the point of drudging it up and making accusations? You made a mistake-you used and were used. Move on and don't have silly ideas of going back to being friends now that you have been intimate with eachother and have made some pretty strong accusations. He obviously doesn't want anything to do with you anymore and now you are pusing the issue. Drop it and move on and next time don't be so quick to open your heart and your body up to a guy who isn't ready to respect you, when you obviously don't have a whole lot of respect for yourself.

Answer 4

Sounds like shame. It's really difficult for a guy to say no to sex, but he should have had your feelings in mind. Society places way too much importance on virginity and the first time, and it only causes pain and misery for us. Don't let it get to you. It's possible that he didn't realize what it meant to you, but you guys should have talked about it. Too late now. Let him pout. Don't chase him. I hope your friends know what happened. There's no way they'd dump you.

Answer 5

I would just ignore him! You said you know where you are not wanted. Obviously he doesn't want to be your friend right now. So just relax and maybe in the near future you 2 may be friends again.

Answer 6

Did something embarrassing happen during your get together? Perhaps he is avoiding eye contact and conversation with you because he is embarrassed. Don't torture yourself, he m;ay come around once he gets passed the embarrassment (if that is what it is), if he doesnt come around, tell him how you feeel honestly and then try to move on. You dont want to torture yourself.