My best friend was supposed to call me on thursday to see if i could hang out, but instead she calls this other friend of hers, and the next day they are all talking about going to the movies and stuff. And there were like 15 or so people that went, and she didn't invite me, even though i'm her best friend. Should I be mad, or get over it??????
2007-03-06 04:57:09 · 27 answers · asked by Aubrey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And then the next night, she invites me to go to the bowling alley with her and the same friend, but when I get there, she says maybe 5-10 words to me, then ignores me the rest of the time. So I just got up and left.
2007-03-06 04:58:28 · update #1
and now, she's made all these other plans, which none of them include me. She didn't even ask me to do any of them. I really don't want to fight with her, but I am upset, because I feel like an outcast now whenever I'm around her.
2007-03-06 05:10:30 · update #2
My personal opinion is that there is usually no logical explanation for the things that people do :) She's not respecting your feelings for some unknown reason - maybe she's just not capable of it. If you ask her why she's being distant lately, maybe she'll give you a straight answer - or maybe she won't. Don't be mad - this is something you can learn from - take it as a demonstration of how not to treat others. And just continue being the best you can be to show that it is her loss if she doesn't spend time with you.
2007-03-06 05:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Leslie J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if shes ignoring you and making new friends without inviting you then you should just do the same...im not saying that having one really good friend for life is a bad thing but it makes things more interesting if you have many friends...perhaps with many different personalities.
i had the same similar problem when i was in 6th grade and that made me realize that i did not want to have one best friend...instead i wanted many really great friends that were all different and likeed to spend time in different ways.
i say, you should make new friends and not invite her, hang out with new people. perhaps she may get jealous that she is not getting attention from you and will realize how important you are to her.
life is long, so believe me...make as many friends as you can cuz you can never have enough. This way if your best friend is busy, you have other people that want to spend time with you.
making friends of course can be awkward but simply asking about a homework problem can strike up a conversation and even a friendship.
2007-03-06 13:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by noneofyurbusiness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something I have experienced friendship does not exist, if you think you have a best friend he or she will be your worst enemy in a time, That's what happened to me I had this friend and I told him that I liked this girl and what does he do he goes after her and dates her and now he doesn't even talk to me, I feel like beating the crap out of him, but the point is that always depend on yourself not your friends they will always let you down, so leave her and go find someone else or stick by yourself, and trust me friendship doesn't exist.
I mean that's messed up what she's doing to you, and you call that friendship? forget it
2007-03-06 13:04:19 · answer #3 · answered by Vicz101 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have gone through the same thing ! i thought she was my bff( best friend forever) but she wasnt actuallu.. from that very moment..i decided not to trust anyone in this world !! anyways... my advice to you would sound a little rude but my advice would be that if she ingores you..u do the same thing !! if she shows attitude tell her that you also can.. dont let her feel that you are unhappy w/o her or something like that.. just tell her you also damn bother !! and i promise you one day she'll come to you and ask for forgiveness !!
or otherwise if you cant do that much.. simply go and talk to her and tell her bout your feeling !!
good luck !
2007-03-06 13:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by swEEto13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have offended her in some way. you need to go to her and just ask what is the problem. I would definitely mention the movies and the bowling alley. she may have something going on where this is a time for your patience.
2007-03-06 13:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by toyloy27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she doesn't see you as her best friend. Are you sure that you guys are best friends? If you are, then she is mad at you for some reason. Find out what it is. Her new friends could be filling her mind with terrible things about you.
2007-03-06 13:03:52 · answer #6 · answered by Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a form of bully behaviour, called "isolating". Don't be a victim. Start your own parties. Have your own fun with other people. Whether you invite her or not is up to you, but I wouldn't pay her much attention in any case. She'll try to gain control. You don't need that.
2007-03-06 13:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she seems like the type that cannot have more then one friend at a time. Talk to her and find out whats going on
2007-03-06 13:00:02 · answer #8 · answered by Varacha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think the worst thing you could do right know is get super angry. You need to gently comfront your bestfriend and ask her whats happening, if she is a true friend she will be honest with you, and will be willing to fix things. Remember, you need to talk to the source, before assuming things, because the same thing happened to me and i found it was the wisest thing to do :D good luck with your friend i hope you guys patch things up!
2007-03-06 13:05:15 · answer #9 · answered by Squirrel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get over it!!!
Find yourself a group of friends to go out with and leave her out of it. Or just go with the flow.....
But if she was a real friend she would have invited you to go with her and her other girlfriends. Take care.
2007-03-06 13:03:09 · answer #10 · answered by angels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋