My wife is a sharp looking gal i would like to see here in lingerie
during the day a little more or even at night or even more for the romance time .Please advise or help with your thoughts .
2007-03-06 04:56:47 · 12 answers · asked by Duck / Deer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well explain to her that you find her very sexy and attractive. Just because you think she's hot, she might not think so. Us girls are really good at being insecure about our bodies, even in front of our husbands sometimes. She still might not want to right away, but with a little more friendly encouragement from you to help her feel more secure about wearing sexier things, she might come around.
2007-03-06 05:02:38 · answer #1 · answered by starlight_940 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Jkr, if my husband referred to me as a "sharp looking gal", I would definitely NOT feel inspired to wear lingerie. Romance doesn't just happen when you're in the mood. It's equally important to tell her that you think she's beautiful at an ordinary moment when having sex isn't your goal (to you she is, isn't she?).
Body image is a huge issue for most women. For many of us, there is not a time in our entire lives when we feel truly good about the way we think our bodies look. Sad, but true. (I look back on pictures of myself and wonder what I was worried about but the issue is still there for me today.) If this is the case with your wife then pressuring her to wear something too revealing will not work. Maybe start with a long satin gown and robe instead of a teddy or bra & thong. Something that SHE will like and feel good in. If this doesn't work then you may have to accept that you've married a woman who just dislikes the way lingerie makes her feel.
2007-03-06 05:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by zenobia2525 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem with your question is, you don't say WHY (no, not why you want her to wear it; why she doesn't want to).
Maybe the stuff you want is too "over the top" for her -- encourage her to wear nice (or rather, naughty) things that SHE likes. Over time, you may be able to nudge her a little farther along.
It's unclear whether she has any; whether you get it for her; whether she picks any out, or what.
I'd suggest removing this question and trying again, giving relevant details.
If you push too hard, she'll resist; but if you haven't let her know how much you'd like this, she may not realize.
Or maybe you just come on too strong when she does wear it. Don't jump her; you want it to be as rewarding an experience for her as for you. Treat her the way she most likes to be treated whenever she does wear it.
2007-03-06 07:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by tehabwa 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let's try to think why she doesn't like to wear it...hmmmm...
She may worry that this is the first step toward more risky stuff like porn or toys and she just doesn't want to go down that road.
Maybe she thinks you are aren't seeing her, but are making her an object. What I mean is, your wife probably knows that you find Giselle hot - but she doesn't want to pretend to be Giselle for you - she wants things to be between you and her - not you and substitute Giselle.
Maybe she doesn't feel attractive - that her flaws will be right there on display.
Try the angle that you think she is the most beautiful woman in the world - even if you ever say anything about Giselle (or whoever), they don't hold a candle to her.
You need to keep talking to her - find out her concerns and then try to work on them.
2007-03-06 05:07:05 · answer #4 · answered by Stan W 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There could be a lot of reasons why your wife isn't into this. She feels she's on display; you want the lingerie, not her; it isn't her 'style' or it's itchy.
Why don't you take a shopping trip together & see what you can find. But be prepared for her to tell her YOU can wear it.
You just might have to accept your wife for who she is.
2007-03-06 05:02:53 · answer #5 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
take her to a store that specializes in lingerie and let her choose what she feels comfortable in. make suggestions on what you think would look good on her but try not to appear too pushy. just let her enjoy the moment and make sure that she makes the final decision on what to buy because if you buy something that she doesn't feel will suit her, she won't wear it and you'll just feel bad.
2007-03-06 05:06:57 · answer #6 · answered by sheilanmanny12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it, tell her she would be beautiful and ask why she doesn't like the idea.
make her feel comfortable and beautiful.
pay attention to her when you're not horny too.
don't pressure her - that will make her resent it.
if she expresses that she's not into it, let that be maybe she'll come around maybe not, if she want you to wear a man thong around all morning would you do it or would you be uncomfortable?
2007-03-06 05:08:11 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are pressuring her to much. What if she wanted you to wear her underwear and parade around in makeup? You wouldnt like that. And if she just kept persisting? You would get mad. I would imagine that is how she feels. Just let it go an let her do it on her own.
2007-03-06 05:01:20 · answer #8 · answered by ~Happy~ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How about take her shopping for it? What woman doesn't love shopping, and it would be fun to watch her try it on too... in Victoria's Secret, they sometimes let your boyfriend come in the changing room with you... try it, I bet it'll work.
2007-03-06 05:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by liverlips86 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that u like her in the lingerie.It's upto her to decide if she wants to wear it.Probably u can try putting it on for her.
2007-03-06 05:06:12 · answer #10 · answered by Cena 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋