i do tell her how i feel and she gets angery that im being honset
2007-03-06 04:46:04 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
From reading some of your other questions on this I think you have a bigger issue here. You need to communicate with your husband before you try to deal with his mom. The two of you need to sit down and talk things through until you're on the same page. If you have to, draw up a contract covering what you agree on and how you plan to handle his mom.
Now this contract is not something to pull out and shove in his mom's face to prove that your DH is on your side. It's to make sure both of you are in agreement and have a plan. Hopefully that will help DH stick to it when he's face to face with his mom. So if you write it down, put it away where (hopefully) no one other than the two of you will know about it.
That said, you can't control her behavior. There's no way *you* can make her be any different. You have to decide how you're going to face it. That could be ignoring her or not asking her to come around or downright banning her from your (and your child's) presence. That's the issue you and DH need to agree on and then he needs to address it with his mom with your full support.
If you're going to be in contact with her one way to deal with unsolicited advice it to make sure the giver knows you heard it by saying something along the lines of "hmmm...I'll think on that" or "thanks for the idea". Then just go and do what you wanted to anyway. Let the advice/commands go in one ear and out the other.
2007-03-07 04:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are being truthful, you have nothing to be upset about. Her being angry is her issue to deal with, not yours. Don't take responsibility for another person's feelings or emotions. They belong to them, not you.
Continue to be honest and then walk away. Gently tell her to grow up learn to handle her emotions. She sounds like someone who likes to stir up chaos and then try to control everyone with her emotional outbursts.
2007-03-06 12:57:46 · answer #2 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to understand this. you can't control how she is going to react. you can't feel sorry for how she behaves or even be concerned about what she thinks about you. you cannot care about what she thinks about you. that is giving your mother in law too much power over you. prepare for the worst and hope for the best.
2007-03-06 12:52:57 · answer #3 · answered by cfalways 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is going to disrespect you,stop her from coming to your home and do not communicate with her. Your husband should be ashamed of himself for not stopping his mother from acting like that.
2007-03-06 13:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she gets mad at you for being honest, that just goes to show she does not care about what you were trying to express, about how you feel.
2007-03-06 12:54:54 · answer #5 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her sometimes the truth hurts. Life's a *********. and then you die. And that's true, true true true.
2007-03-06 12:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the shotgun
2007-03-06 15:35:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋