My over weight child tries to dress like the slim girls and it looks horrible. What do I do?

Answer 1

My daughter is overweight also. Its a very touchy thing and I've gone through it. She sounds like my daughter, and it's really a good thing that she's comfortable with herself. If at all possible, try not to say anything that will change that. If it were me, as long as she isn't dressing inappropriately otherwise (slutty) I'd let it be because if she likes herself, others will barely notice her weight and it will not affect her ability to get and keep friends.

Answer 2

Well, is she buying her own clothes? If the answer is no, take control. Stop buying her things that make her look "horrible" as you say. If she is buying her own clothes, take a picture of her and show her. "This is what other people see" Be prepared to help her when she is upset with this. She may honestly not realize that she looks bad. Talk about healthy eating, it's importance and maybe do a mother daughter walk per day. Do anything you can to help her be fit. Don't worry so much about the clothes she is wearing but the underlying problem of her being overweight.

Answer 3

My niece is 10 and she`s 40lbs overweight. I`ve tried this,I took her to the store and she tried the clothes on and asked me my opinion. I said" well it looks a little tight on you, maybe you should pick something that hides your waist". Even my ten year old niece knows deep down inside that she is wayyyy, overweight. She`s 4 9 and she weighs 131lbs. She weighs more than me. When I go over to visit, she tries to borrow my jeans and she can`t. I think my sister in law is too blame, she let my niece go into the fridge at night and eat whatever she wants. What I`m trying to say is, the parents have to recognize the problem before the child does. It`s up to the parents to stop lying to their child about their appearance. Tell the child straight out. " You look terrible in that outfit, it doesn`t fit you, you may need to start watching what you eat"!!But the sick part about it all is the parents get offended when you mention their child`s unhealthy eating habits. My sister in law thinks macaroni salad is part of the fruit and vegetable group. She also says her daughters cellulite is muscle!! WAKE UP!! Obesity in children is rising and parents just shrug it off and say their child is "special and everyone is different". YEAH RIGHT!!

Answer 4

Take some photos of her in different outfits...good, bad, and ugly.
Let her look at them or look at them together and discuss what she thinks about how it looks...have a critique and say what looks flattering on her...she should catch on.

And as the others have mentioned set an example if you think your daughter would respond to that.

Diet is a bad word...don't start her on that mind set... As the Mom just help her make healthier food choices and don't buy junk if that's the culprit and go for walks together. Don't make her self conscious to the point where she'll eventually get an eating disorder. She's a child like you said...let her be one but instill good habits early...food, exercise, school and fashion.

Good luck!
Remember how it was when you were a kid and treat your daughter accordingly with respect & kindness.

Answer 5

I'd say do 3 things:
1) store only healthy food in your pantry
2) buy her only the clothes that look good on her
3) explain how being overweight is unhealthy and needs to be changed

I knew a kid (my nephew's best friend) who did the same thing yours does... unfortunately everybody was laughing at her behind her back for her poor clothing choices. Although it's somewhat good that she doesn't feel ugly, also feeling too good when one looks like cr*p is a problem in my book.

Answer 6

Change her eating and activity habits WITHOUT mentioning her weight to her. It won't do any good just to change the way she dresses. You should not allow your child to be overweight. But whatever you do, do not tell her that she looks bad. My mother did that to me, and it caused me to later starve myself for six months.

Answer 7

It is my opinion that even clothes that the slimmer girls are wearing can look good on bigger girls, if they fit properly. for example- no muffin top. Also, explain to her that not every fad is going to be flattering on everyone, and for her to pick and choose the ones that suit her best. I am a bigger girl, and I don't necessarily think that dressing in baggy clothes is the best thing for me. That can add the appearance of even more bulk. I think in most cases, fitted (not tight) is your best bet. Good luck! :-)

Answer 8

Find a nice way to tell her that those clothes don't look good on her and to find something that'll fit her figure a little better

Answer 9

Take hr shopping and show her their are those cute clothes fr bigger girls. Ifshe sees people respond better to her wearing clothing that fits her she will realize style is better than fad

Answer 10

Help her lose weight. It's not just a matter of her appearance: It's a matter of health, especially if the family medical history has heart problems and diabetes in it.