Why don't some parents properly discipline their children?

Question

I work in retail, and last night I had an ugly encounter with a mother who came through my line with her two small children. First of all, I don't like this woman or her children, because her kids are a couple of loud little hellions and she doesn't do anything to control them. If anything, she seems to be very permissive with regards to their bad behavior. At one point, when I was checking her out, her 5-year-old son picked up something from off my counter. When I asked him to hand the item to me, she told me not to talk to her kid like that and that if her kid ever picked up anything, I should tell her. Excuse me, but if she had been doing her job in the first place, I wouldn't have had to say anything to her son. Also, parents like her aren't doing their kids any favors, because if they and the other adults around them don't set limits early on, then someone else eventually will, and that someone may very well be a cop. And not only that, but it is the parents' responsiblity to

teach their kids to respect other people's property and rights and that's not what their doing when they let them do whatever they want in public.

Answer 1

Some people tink it is wrong to hit their kids.

Answer 2

Each parenting style is different. Some are so disciplinary that kids can never be kids and never get close to parents. Some may love their kids so much, that they let them do whatever they want. Some don't care at all. A parenting style may reflect her parent's.

Kids are always loud, as long as they aren't screaming their heads off, hurting or destroying something, then it's practically normal.

I myself would be offended if someone told what my kid should do if I didn't know that person, or doesn't work with kids. I would be wondering if you were planning on hurting my child physically or emotionally. If you were in a horrible mood and lash out or what. You should have asked her, not the child.

Yes, she probably does not teach her kids on how to act, but they may grow up to be considerate. She may have trouble doing so, gave up, and is letting the school do so. She and the school knows them better, not you. They may have just had on of those hyper days, and she was letting them blow off a little steam.

Well, my answer is that, I'm not defending or attacking them, unless I saw it for myself, or know them.