does this make me immoral?

Question

i live with a man, as though we are married. we love each other and we are going to spend the rest of our lives together. we are faithful to one another and we have a child that we love dearly. the only difference is that we don't have that piece of paper that says we can be together, kinda like the people who lived before marriage was invented. am i immoral? am i going to burn in hell? (heavy sarcasm...lol)

Jy, i'm not gay. although i do speek up for gay rights. i wouldn't call myself agnosticMOM if i was a man......lol

Answer 1

No, you won't. You are loved by your family and friends. Enjoy today.

Answer 2

before you ask this question, i think yes you are immoral. but now it's different, you ask yourself if what you're doing is wrong or not.

there are some reasons why there is a marriage. if you love each other, why not get married? by getting married you can feel more responsible to each other. when there's a problem you cannot just say "i wanna divorce" you work things out first. by getting married you cannot find another guy and he cannot find another girl.

burn in hell? oh come on you know the answer. you fornicated outside the holy matrimony. what's the worst thing you can do? not getting married of course. then what's the best thing you can do? be in the holy matrimony. so, why not get married? if you guys really love each other, then you wont have a problem, right?

Answer 3

If you are not hurting anyone (including yourself) with your action then it is not sin. But if you are hurting people around you (family, children, friends, etc,..) then in some ways, why would this question pop in your mind. If you really don't care what society thinks of you, then why even think it? Because personally, i wouldn't care. If you have grown to be a better person, a better woman, a better mother because of your status now, then i don't see anything immoral there. (I cannot say, better wife, because you are actually not married, so thus, it doesn't make you husband and wife -consult your dictionary) Morality is more complex than what the great many number of people claimed it to be.

However, i would still suggest civil marriage (which is not a religion issue, right?). For the sake of your child's legitimacy. Do not be selfish to think of yourself alone. Your existence affects others as well.

Answer 4

Well, you see, "marriage" which you call a piece of paper is really a lot more than a piece of paper. It is a legal/financial commitment, which i believe to be a biggie. People get married only when they are ready to make such a huge commitment. Also, considering that you have a child, I would think you'd want to consider those legalities for the child's sake. (not conisdering your child would make you immoral) So from that aspect, if i were you, i'd re-evaluate your commitment level to each other in terms of everything, and this child you have together, because really that child should be of most importance in your life.

Answer 5

God invented marriage and for a reason. It is to grow together and to have committment. You say you will always be with your man. That's great. However, biblically, it is not correct. If you don't believe in God than you shouldn't care about whether or not you live immorally. I know of plenty of people who were committed to one another and then, one day, it broke apart. Being married goes beyond a paper. It means to become one, to honor one another and love one another. To be submissive and forget one self for the sake of the union. If you have doubt about your situation, then something is nagging on you, and I hope you will find out what that is.
As for going to hell. Well, if you are not saved, that's where you will go. We are all sinners and fall short of the glory of God. If you ask His forgiveness, then your sins will be washed away. As a saved person you will want to do God's will as He relates it to us in the bible. It will become your desire to please Him.

Answer 6

Marriage is ordained of God. There are various forms of marriage. Your's would most likely be referred to as Common Law marriage. If you are faithful, and live like you describe only you would be able to judge if you were living immorally. You may shut yourself off from certain religious faiths because part of the tenets of these faiths require a certain type of marriage. That is a choice made by you. Judge yourself, no one else is going to.

Answer 7

For your living conditions you probably won't burn in hell -- other
kids may/may not give your kids hell or a ration of s***. If your re-lationship is sanctified by God, which only you know, than you ARE married (that's MY OPINION). But, as far as legal issues are
concerned, the State makes the decision. Are you gonna burn,
that's between you and God Almighty.

Answer 8

I'm Catholic and although I am in line with the Church on many things, this is one where I diverge. Marriage is an important thing, but it is also something that is bounded by two people and two people with a common devotion. I think marriage should be taken seriously, but it's also a legal, binding contract. For a lot of people, it's a rite of passage, rather than a Rite or something to be taken seriously. I guess I just think people's love should be first and foremost.

Answer 9

no... as a matter of fact- Considering every breakup I've had, I think this would be a good thing. Why get the law involved in something so messy as a relationship? On top of that, why would any god care who you spend your life with?

Besides, if that's immoral and there was a hell- I'd be there already.

Answer 10

Which system of ethics do you want to use as a guide? In some, yes, you're a horrible example of humanity. In some, you'd make a good priest. Probably what you'll catch more flak for is using Internet abbreviations and not capitalizing things. God is a prescriptive grammarian.

Answer 11

Unfortunately, there is a lot of legal red tape and financial difficulties involving institutionalized marriage, and there are plenty of reasons why it isn't possible for some. It doesn't even mean that much symbolically anymore (unless you're the Bush administration.) If you're happy, I'm happy.