He is already telling her he loves her and wants to marry her. He was actually telling her this before either one was divorced. He goes over and starts her car in the morning, sends her flowers, pays her bills. She has her own place, he does not. He lives with his sister. He just seems to good to be true. Im afraid he is going to hurt her and just investing in his future so to speak. Cuz after their divorce he will probably move right on in. Im also friends with his ex-wife and she said when she met him she had her own place and a sports car and promised her all this stuff and sweet talked her and turned out to be a real jerk. But he doesnt treat my friend like that or so she says. Hearing about him from both of them, Im not sure who to believe. I just dont want my friend to get used and hurt. She is just getting out of a relationship to. What do ya think?
2007-03-06 03:52:23 · 7 answers · asked by Belle N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If they've both been divorced less than a year, it's too soon to be moving on to the next person in line. People need time to heal from divorce, whether or not they were the one who initiated it. The fact that this guy is living with his sister is a red flag. He needs to be on his feet and fully functioning before he brings his drama to someone else's life. If they eventually hook up and say "I do," their chances of divorcing are even higher than in their previous marraiges.
Tell your friend to take some time to figure out what's really important. Don't let someone pressure her into a relationship that binds them financially. She should remember, too, that even if you're separated you're still married. Separation does not equal divorce, and if he's telling someone else he loves them while still married to someone else, he most likely will be a repeat offender. If he will cheat with you, he will cheat on you. You can only advise your friend to be careful with her heart and her possessions. This guy is gonna be bad news.
2007-03-06 04:13:02 · answer #1 · answered by TheWoman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may just be the rebound chic-watch out.
I have a friend going through THE EXACT SAME THING right now and we are starting to realize there is much more to the story. He really layed it on thick like he was a great guy. It's been a few months now, the divorce is final and we are really starting to see he is a liar. He hasn't kept most of his promises to her. Let your friend read this.
Any guy who cannot be by himself for a while during a divorce isn't a man anyway. Major security issues. And much more, I guarantee it. The ex-wife will tell her. Maybe one of you should ask her some detailed questions about him.
2007-03-06 04:13:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm afraid he is going to hurt her too.
Sounds like he is using her as the rebound girl. The things he is doing for her is very typical for a man in that current situation. Maybe is planning on doing the same thing before. Some men don't know what to do without a stable woman in their lives. He is probably trying to 'trap' her as it were and make it where she can't see herself with anyone else but him. And after they're married, he'll be his real self.
Hopefully, all this is wrong and she just found a good man!
2007-03-06 03:59:56 · answer #3 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he can't be on his own. Hopefully, your friend will not let him move in right away. If she does, she may be well on her way to being in the same spot as his ex. I am sure he layed it on thick for her in the beginning too as he is doing with your best friend. After just getting out of a relationship, the best thing to do is give yourself some time before jumping into another serious one. Try talking to her about your worries and let her know she needs to give herself a little time before jumping into living together or marrying him. Ask her if she really loves him or just loves getting the attention etc that the guy is providing. If he really loves her (as he says) he will wait until she is ready if she says no to him moving in right away. That will show her how he truly feels. Just be sure when you are talking to her not to tell her anything, just give ideas to think about. None of us like when friends tell us what to do. Be there to support her no matter what she does. Hopefully, she will hear your ideas and really take them into consideration.
2007-03-06 04:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by debrenee211 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confusing to have self belief that your buddy "at the moment" were given divorced and is now waiting as a lot as now. Then to assert that she's requested about having a guy sleep over? Sounds to me like she's on the rebound too instantly and with her babies she's searching for a alternative for the only she lost. i could tell her that she is an man or woman and could could make up her own ideas as to even as a guy could sleep over or no longer. easily everyone has their own timetable. besides the undeniable fact that I could imagine that she could enable her "adult males" to understand that she at the moment became divorced and he or she gained't be rushing into something until eventually she is conscious that he's on the up and up and in no way only attempting to capitalize on her vulnerability. She's were given to understand that she has her youngster's destiny to imagine about no longer in reality her own sexual appetites.
2016-12-05 08:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is investing in her house and she is too vulnerable for an immediate relationship now.
2007-03-06 04:00:50 · answer #6 · answered by siaosi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD HAVE A THREESOME WITH THEM
2007-03-06 03:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋