the parties booked all arranged,now he says i'd better not do that for him,do i cancel everything or just go anyway without him......................................
2007-03-06 03:50:42 · 13 answers · asked by blackcat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I must admit that I also hate surprises but if someone had gone to all that effort then I wouldn't be so ungrateful. Ask him if he can just go through with it this once and promise him that you'll never do anything like this again. If he still moans, tell him not to be such a brat.
2007-03-06 03:55:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go with it anyway since it is already organised - just tell him the truth so that it is not a surprise. People always say they don't want a party but most people are flattered that someone cared enough to arrange it for them - as long as you haven't arranged anything that will really embarass him, I am sure he will enjoy it anyway. And if he is just a real killjoy then I would be wondering whether he was the right person for me. It does also suggest you may be a mismatch when it has come as a surprise to you that he would not want a surprise party.
2007-03-06 04:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by LillyB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but I think he needs a kick up the backside. He shouldn't have attempted to guess then he would never have known. Despite him not wanting it he doesn't appear to appreciate the love and thought you have put in to it. Honestly think you should cut your losses as in deposits etc and the money you salvage from what it was costing for the party go out and have a ball with your female pals.
2007-03-06 11:55:59 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 06:53:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it is cancelled. You and him will be going somewhere of his choice and you are donating the proceedings to a friend. This friend has invited you both.
You will be telling the truth and who knows he may want to go then as it is no longer a surprise party !!!!!
2007-03-06 04:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by Tamart 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend seems pretty ungrateful if you ask me, I would probably not cancel it but tell everyone that it's not a surprise party but a normal party that way your boyfriend will feel less intimidated.
2007-03-06 03:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by Pearl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably feels like you're the one who wanted to have a party, and you're just using him as an excuse. Is this true? Apologize, explain, and ask what would be more appropriate next time. He should let it go easily.
2007-03-06 03:55:40 · answer #7 · answered by Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to pick his bottom lip up off the floor and stop throwing his toys around. He should be grateful you went to the trouble. Go ahead with the party, he'll soon change his tune when he's had a few beers with his mates- then he will be the one apologizing to you!
2007-03-06 04:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by George B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and involve him in some of the preparations etc so that he feels he has some element of control over any aspects of the do that you haven't already planned - or allow him to arrive earlier/ later than your guests so that he doesn't feel too much like the centre of attention - you could arrive together if he's worried about making a big entrance...
2007-03-06 04:11:14 · answer #9 · answered by ticket2ride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear, suprise parties, I think you might have to come clean with him or you could make him angry or look stupid when he refuses to turn up , you never know he might like the idea when you tell him and is just scared of suprises
2007-03-06 03:55:33 · answer #10 · answered by isleofskye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋