i really need to
2007-03-06 03:45:28 · 19 answers · asked by jewelzlovesfalloutboy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I had the same situation....I broke up with my bf whom I was with for over 4 and 1/2years. It was about 10 months ago when I broke up with him. I was still missing him until I found out he was engaged! Once you find the right person (a new man!) you will stop thinking about him and you time together. All I can say is give it time and start dating more to keep your mind off of it! Its hard but once you find the ONE it will totally change!
Keep you chin up and enjoy the single life :o)
2007-03-06 03:50:03 · answer #1 · answered by melmiko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well not sure what can work for you. We're all different individuals and what works for one person will not work for the next. I will tell you how I got over my ex of 5 years. We split up in May of last year. I was completely hurt and devastated but refused to go back, even after he apologized for throwing me out of the house. He wanted me back and I wanted to go back with him but my self worth was stronger. I picked up a second job, so I was working about 65 hrs a week, I'd come home just in time to go to bed. I didn't have enough time to come home and dwell on things. On my days off, I'd arrange to go meet up with friends and just the company of a good friend is nurturing. I kept myself busy and surrounded by positive people. Almost a year later, I'm doing better than ever. I will always love him but I'm over him. Try to keep yourself occupied and use that time to better yourself. Joining a gym, if you don't have a membership already, and use all the aggravation to work out. You'll feel better. Good luck and hope you can get something positive out.
2007-03-06 11:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by Luv2know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...breaking up with anyone is difficult stuff...sometimes though it's not so difficult either...depends on the circumstances I would imagine. The feelings that erupt after being the "dumpee" are not so terrifically different from being the "dumped" individual in any relationship honestly. Neither one feels good about stuff afterwards anyways...and both sides deserve some direct respect from one another. Be a bigger person then your former self...Know why you both broke up in the first place. Understand some time to be thinking privately is in order for both of you two reasonably. If it was a harsh and painful situation?...no contact is required by either of you two without any uncertainty. Let the dust settle so to speak. Let peace and civil behavior be your mantra! Ex lovers can be friends darling...but only with good honest open hearted behavior. Keep your chin up high and sticking outwards honey. Flex your muscles a little bit too! It's gotta be nice to be you babe! Don't sit around hanging your head in shame and guilt and perplexity. There are great things coming your way if you'll only be open minded and open hearted to accept them. Stay positive and keep busy with yourself wantingly. Sitting around stewing about former lovers will only leave you feeling badly and generally worse then when you started. Find your friends and treat yourself to some wonderfull deserved close time with people you love dearly. Throw out the stress and anxiety of all your former lovers...cause that's exactly what they are...former lovers. There's always gonna be a new one coming along shortly babe....please God let this be the one!Good luck to you sweetie...get busy darling. Life is full of fabulous men. Go find one that suits your needs babe. There's plenty of us out here ya know!
2007-03-06 12:08:02 · answer #3 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only way to get over this is to talk to one or two good friends about it and go hang out with the girls every night for a while. It also wouldn't hurt to find some new hobbies and start working out or something, it will ease your mind. Then in a few months, start dating again.
2007-03-06 11:51:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the hardest things in life to do. And I know that everyone will say this but the most important thing to do is give yourself time. Time will heal it. Another thing that has aways helped me was finding another guy. You don't need to jump into a relationship or anything, but find a guy to have a crush on. It will help I promise!!! Good Luck!
2007-03-06 11:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its hard just get more friends be more social. Getting another boyfriend does not work. You will only hurt yourself because then you will realize that you cant forget him. Be more social dont depressed yourself hearing music. Its hurts like **** but theres more things to see and feel. Try your best not think about it too much.
2007-03-06 11:49:45 · answer #6 · answered by Jaizmin P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is not to move on... it's to move in. What I mean is that you should spend time enjoying being single... get to know what you enjoy, what you want to do with your life, how you want to live, where, what hobbies do you like, etc.
When you get to know who you are and learn to enjoy that finding someone who really enjoys and appreciates you for who you are will not be a problem. In fact, they'll flock to your door.
2007-03-06 11:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by Bud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out, socialize with other friends, be social, find a new bf. May take some time, but it will happen. Get out there and start playing again. You can do it!
2007-03-06 11:49:05 · answer #8 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hi jewelzluv,
ex is always ex. forget and forgive him try a new venture. enjoy the life!
2007-03-06 11:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by amarnath 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a reason he's an ex and dont forget that. u found him and you'll find someone new. dont rush it just let it happen, it's always best to just let it happen "naturally"
2007-03-06 11:55:13 · answer #10 · answered by jayw608 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋