Am a guy, just trying to be careful but always have sexual urge but scared i may inpreganate a girl i may not like. Besides i don,t have the money to settle down now. what do i do?
2007-03-06 03:42:04 · 45 answers · asked by lovely 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
use a condom.
2007-03-06 03:44:14 · answer #1 · answered by Michael B 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There's nothing wrong with you. However, you're getting older and most decent girls your age either are married or has a boyfriend. Most of those that are not taken are probably the type that you wouldn't want to get involved with. Don't be too impatient and choose the wrong girl. There is someone out there that will suit you just find. Don't expect to find a decent girl at a bar. Join a club of some social activity where you might find the girl you want. In the mean time, masturbate and enjoy yourself. Good Luck.
2007-03-06 03:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexual urges are normal. I'm assuming by stating you want to settle down that you do plan on getting married one day. I admire and have the utmost respect for you as you are controlling your sexual urges until your wedding day. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you so don't worry about it. The woman who marries you will be a very lucky woman.
2007-03-06 03:49:04 · answer #3 · answered by Stefka 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothings wrong with you, you just obviously haven't met the right girl yet, and when you do, you will know its the one. When you have enough money you can do fun stuff like get married have kids you just have to be patient wait for the girl that's right for you. Besides when you do find her i will guarantee you that she will love the fact that you are still a virgin.
2007-03-06 03:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by Cassie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As another individual put it, there is nothing wrong with you, you must have been taught great morals. I applaude your parents. I also applaude you in your long suffering to do it the right way. Hopefully there is a woman out there who is just like you and has the same morals that were instilled in you. Hang on. And don't get caught up with the rest of us loose-butts of the world.
Peace
2007-03-06 03:52:14 · answer #5 · answered by RUREADY4this? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there is nothing wrong with you- in fact, it sounds like you're one of the few people your age who still have some sense left.
Unwanted pregnancies are not the only reason to avoid sex before marriage, though- in addition to that and the risk of contracting or distributing HIV or AIDS, God explicitly forbids it in the Bible. I recommend you keep your eye out for a good woman, get married, and then you can really enjoy life.
Don't give in to temptation; you will always regret it afterwards.
2007-03-06 03:46:34 · answer #6 · answered by pianoman.jeremy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
make sure she is on birth control, or you can use a condom. that is what they are there for! duh! are you scared of getting someone pregnant, does no one want to have sex with you, or do you honestly not know what to do? or are you scared? you need to have sex soon because you don't want to become one of those weird 40 year old virgins. once you get past a certain age, you become strange and a lot of people will not take a 35, 40 , 45 year old virgin. i guess people figure that there must be a reason they have not had sex, and they also figure that there is something wrong with them, or that no one wants them, and then wonder what the reason is.
2007-03-06 03:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by SuzyBelle04 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. i went to school with a guy who remained a virgin until he married a virgin. they have about 5 kids now and are very happy. they didn't have to worry about diseases or unknown pregnancys. sexual urges are natural and i am sure that masterbation is acceptable for you. I know lots of girls who want to have babys and they are itching to find a man to trap so i would say your fears are not unfounded. lots of women tease about looking for a "sperm donor."
what i do wish to do is urge you to date. just because you date does not mean you might have sex. find a nice girl in your church and go out with her. when you marry most couples have two checks coming in unless you want your wife to be able to stay home with your children.
2007-03-06 03:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by misse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with you--you are being responsible and careful. Don't rush things because you feel you have to lose your virginity by a certain age. It will happen when the time is right. Good luck!!
2007-03-06 03:45:51 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Sodas♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WAIT!....What you have to offer a girl in a committed relation is something SPECIAL. Alot of society's rules were established to maintain the structure of the culture. So ,some rules are for our benefit:heath, emotional, community safety, cultural integrity.
HOWEVER, if you end up slipping protect yourself and the other person and also remember: By HIS Grace, we also have FORGIVENESS. But, if you can hold on, Hold on!....It will make you special....not perfect...just special;-).
2007-03-06 04:10:50 · answer #10 · answered by spiritseeker2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work a second job to get money to settle down. Exerciese some to help with tension too.
2007-03-06 04:10:19 · answer #11 · answered by megan261980 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋