I am 22. Should I be dating many girls or be with one?

Question

Hi. I am 22.
A year ago I broke up with my ex, because I wasn`t sure about her, and also I wanted to experience life. I just felt like life wasn`t moving forward, and I just felt board, and not that happy.

Does this mean she was not the one for me?

Should I date many girls until I find the one which I feel comfortable with and don`t get board with after a few months? Is that how you know? I regret it now, but then I really felt dead.

I don`t have sex with the girl. I just want to know which one is for me, and not feel trapped after a while, and ask myself the question if this one is for me.
Thats what I kept asking myself - is this all there is for me. I want to have a nice girlfriend, but I don`t want to feel obliged to date her out of kindness. I want to be sure,.

Answer 1

You are right to move on. When the right one comes along, you will no. You are still young, and should maybe travel, and get to know more people. Experience is the best teacher. It is how you learn to make life decisions. Don't regret!! Move forward...

Answer 2

Man, I wish I had been as mature about this sort of thing at 22 as you are.

Absolutely, I am a firm believer that unless you see and date a lot of women, you won't know what you will like in a future wife. So, if you date a lot, you will have a good pool of experience to know what you like and don't like. The more you date, the more you can narrow down your ideal woman. Cause that's what its all about right? Finding the ONE? I think a lot of people like the stability, like the comfort of having 2 incomes, maybe buy a place together and then need each other to afford all the nice things. But do they really LOVE each other?

If you were bored, then HELL yes it was right to move on. It does mean she wasn't the one for you. If it's boring now, you have to think about when you are 40 or older and how much of your life will have been spent being bored. At this stage, it is right to be self-indulgent and think about yourself above the girl. When you find the right one, then you won't think about yourself as much as you think about what would make her happy. It comes naturally.

Answer 3

i think she wasn't the one for you if you felt dead. lol. maybe you regret it cause you no longer have some one there 24/7. That feeling will past. belive me it will. You are young you will face many more things in life, you will find the right one for you. Don't go looking for love, love will find you. If you do, you'll probably end up hurting someone if you go into a relationship for the wrong reasons. Just live and have a GOOD TIME, it will all work out..

She did the right thing by breaking up with her cause you weren't happy.

Answer 4

Naa man now that you are outta college if you went you gotta find one that you think is good to settle down with. But the next few years are critical due to people falling in love in college and some of the hot *** girls are going to be taken.

Ya sure you should be out there finding whatever piece of *** is available but keep in mind that when you find one that you like it is going to be hard to tell her how many girls you had sex with and you will feel bad that you did not do the first time stuff with her.

Go with the classy girls who are undercover. Meaning lady in the street but a freak in the bed. This way you can bring her home to mom and still not be board when you go out and party etc.

Answer 5

She probally wasn't the one for you. But you should enjoy life. Hmmm. I wouldn't go out and sleep with every girl you can. That would just make you a dog. But when you find the right one you will know. When you find the gal for you life while be great and Im sure you won't feel unhappy.

Answer 6

u bets git dating out yo system. i don't know any 22 year old women who want to settle down less they done found they man.
and to be grossly honest i have an idea that the way to be absolutely sure yo gal/guy is the one for both of ya'll : its when you can see her/ him at they worse. when you don't mind kissing em in the morning or when they wear yo clothes and you find that sexy. but be careful you might be that cool with one of yo friends don't mistake a laxe friendship for love

Answer 7

after a few months in any relationship, your going to get board. but just because you get board with someone doesn't mean that they aren't the one for you. think about after years and years of being together (like old people-) do u really think they haven't gotten sick of each other. but that doesn't mean that you can't love them anymore.

Answer 8

I would say go ahead and date. just be honest with the girls your with and tell them that you are just playing the field and aren't looking for anything serious. but be careful, sex will make it more than just dating to any girl. keep it real with them. and take them out. when you find one that you like or that keeps your attention and you have fun, stop with the others and than just date that one girl..than you can take it as far as you want from there.

Answer 9

You're still in your prime. Have fun! Don't necessarily have sex with every woman possible. Date around. Don't worry about settling down yet unless you really do find the right one that keeps you on your toes.

Answer 10

Any relationship needs plenty of work, patience and COMMITMENT, and not to mention a very good dose of love. If you didn't share this with her, it was not a "relationship" to begin with and you can't really call her your ex. She's just probably someone you had sex with when you felt horny.

Shame on you!