Ok because my friend is having a baby and we cant seem to talk her out of it.Shes only 13 and its twins.We know the impact.PLEASE HELP!!!
2007-03-06 03:39:13 · 12 answers · asked by sexycutelexi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
whats done is done. if she does not want an abortion she'l have to see it through. hopefully she'll come to her senses once they're born. personally, i think teens having babies is one of the biggest problems facing our world today. you can teach abstinence and safe sex until you're purple. kids tend to do what they want. they act impulsively and live for the moment. many tend to blame the parents. i think thats unfair. for the most part, they do their best with their kids but can't be with them 24/7. we can only hope that the kids listen to the words we've shoved down their throats and stop to think before they act.
2007-03-06 04:07:58 · answer #1 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is she planning on keeping them?
At 13 she is not going to have an easy pregnancy or birth. But she can probably manage it.
But if she is planning to keep them she will have some rude awakenings. If she is, is she planning on having help? From whom? If it is her parents and if you haven't spoken with her parents yet, it may be time.
At 13 she hasn't enough life experience to make a reasonable decision about having babies and her parents must be involved, or the courts will be.
There are thousands of questions that she needs to hear and find answers to before she should consider being a mother. At 13 she doesn't even have a clue what the questions are. She isn't stupid. Just young. She needs guidance from her parents.
2007-03-06 11:51:04 · answer #2 · answered by Batty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Email me. I would love to adopt them. A parents job is to love and sacrafice for what's best for their child. It's also their job to bring that child up so they are able to take care of themselves when that parent is gone and also to turn loose on the world a decent human being who will contribute to society. There is no way a 13 year old who has experienced enough of life to be able to bring up a child properly. I had a friend and at 25 he knew how to feed and change a diaper but had no common sense on anything else. It's not black and white. Things come up in life with a child where you have to make split second decisions for their health and well being. A child doesn't have that kind of judgement. Parents have got to stop doing everything for these kids having kids so they can experience how hard it is and do the right thing which is give these babies up for adoption. Anything less is just plain selfish.
2007-03-06 22:53:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
13 is way too young.
The point of having children is caring and providing for another life, and at 13 years old you can't do that. You aren't done school, you don't have a good job (if you have a job at all), you still probably live with your parents at this time... it's just not a situation that anyone should put themselves in.
Being a mother is about being selfless and putting all your needs aside to care for a baby. When you're 13, you can't do that either. You need to finish school, and find a way to get some money for yourself and these children.
Your friend should think about all the ladies out there who can't concieve and have their own children, but they desperately want children and have safe, loving homes for them to go home to where they are provided for.
2007-03-06 11:44:52 · answer #4 · answered by Danielle M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, she's already conceived the babies. What are you trying to talk her out of, exactly? - having them? As in, you're trying to talk her into having an abortion? Why punish the baby for a mistake she made? She'll regret it later, anyway, I promise. Abortion is not an option, however, if she needs it, AdOption IS an Option! So is foster care. And there are several other sources of help available if she needs them.
2007-03-06 12:32:06 · answer #5 · answered by polarbear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happens will have to be between her and her parents since they will be the ones having to support the children and most likely do the majority of the caregiving. She will have to talk to them to come up with the best decision for everyone involved.
2007-03-06 11:55:54 · answer #6 · answered by bvtc6677 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a shame to see a young teenage girl with her belly stuck out or running around with a baby on their hip like it's a stylish purse. It is a shame and everyone knows it.
2007-03-06 12:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean by talking her out of it? She's already pregnant. She's gonna have the babies whether you want her to or not. Now, there is adoption, foster care, or parental help. Whichever she chooses, it is her and her family's decision. Not yours.
2007-03-06 12:02:56 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First go confront her parents into not having a big fit about it. Then go help your friend through the situation. Let her know you care and you want to help her thats it
2007-03-06 11:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by korri s 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi I think she could keep the babies because she got herself into this situation. I would never have an abortion, I think it's wrong. What have they done wrong to deserve to be killed and forgotten about? Please feel free to email me any time. (samantha.catherine@hotmail.co.uk) Good luck, Sam xxxxx
2007-03-07 11:30:59 · answer #10 · answered by sxcsam92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋