About 5 months ago my pregnant wife and I lay down to go to sleep with my 2yr and 4r old daughters asleep upstairs in their beds. Maybe two hours had past and I found myself half awake trying to rub on my wifes leg to initiate some intamacy, however as I began to continue I slowly realized that it was not my wife but my 4yr old that had snuck into my bed inbetween my wife and I. Yikes..I freaked out and almost jumped out of bed. I felt so bad about it even though nothing obscene really happened. I have prayed about it and forgiven myself for it but it is still a constant thought that I dwell on throughout my day. I just can't shake it no matter how much I tell myself it's O.K. Has this ever happened to anyone or does anyone have some advice on how I can get over it?
2007-03-06 03:28:24 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Might have worde this wrong my wife and I were asleep in out OWN bed downstairs.
2007-03-06 03:48:28 · update #1
it happens. No big deal. Our kids sneak into bed with us all the time and there's been a few times my husband's tried climbing on top of me just to find one of our kids in between us. There's no way to know when their there. Maybe just let them know that they need to let mommy and daddy know when they join you. Forgive yourself. It's life
2007-03-06 03:51:53 · answer #1 · answered by Melba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did nothing wrong. It's not like you intentionally rubbed your kid's leg or anything. It was an honest mistake.Your child probably was asleep and didn't notice or if she did, thought that daddy was just comforting her. It's your guilty feeling that makes you a good guy. If you were a pedophile you would not be feeling this way. Don't stress on it...your daughter may pick up on it and wonder why dad is acting all weird!!
2007-03-06 03:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are cool. We have had our kids surprise us in bed too and get in the way of intimacy - it is no big deal. When kids are small, they don't get any impropriety signals for something as innocent as leg rubbing (particularly when they are sleeping - some are very sound sleepers). The only stigma attached to such an innocent mistake is the stigma you bring to the situation.
Don't let it bother you. Cuddle with the kids and watch tv (I rub backs and legs and tickle while we cuddle) and be more careful with mid-night intimacy now that you are aware of the potential intrusion.
Peace!
2007-03-06 03:40:07 · answer #3 · answered by carole 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH wow that's a hard one,you may what to seek the advice of a minister,consular. And i would suggest that you explain to the kids that they can not sneek into bed with mommy and daddy,that they are to wake uo mom or dad if the get out of bed and need you.Good luck sorry i couldnt help more
2007-03-06 03:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent myself, I sympathize with you. I have no idea how you could get over this besides with time. If this continues to bother you too much, you should try seeing a counselor about this to help you resolve your feelings. I'm very sorry this happened to you. Maybe putting a lock on your door might help you feel better as well.
2007-03-06 03:42:51 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making this a way bigger deal than it is - he's only 4, I'm sure he has no clue that it even happened. Let it go - really - you are beating yourself up over nothing.
2007-03-06 08:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was an accident, just forgive yourself and go on. I would not try to get intimate if children were in the bed in the first place though.
2007-03-06 03:45:55 · answer #7 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop feeling so guilty. it's not like you intentionally did it. your daughter probaly didn't even realize that you were rubbing her leg. if she did she just thought you were doing it to comfort her. you have asked for forgiveness and that is more than enough for something slight like that. i think that children often interrupt or come in during intimacy.
2007-03-06 03:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by Maddie and Jacobs mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋