Planning my wedding is stressful enough, but to add to the drama, my fiance and I are not sure about what church to pick. Our hometown where we will be returning to a week before the ceremony has plenty of churches, but we dont know how to choose one. Neither of us is really very religious and arent sure if we should pick a church of one of our religions or if its ok to just pick out a church cause we like it. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-06 03:09:07 · 15 answers · asked by babyangelismissingtlh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you do not have to marry in a church. You can get married anywhere. However if you are going to use a church you have to make arrangements and pay to use it and make sure that it is available.
2007-03-06 03:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by EmmaNicole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a church that you attended regularly when you lived there? Do any of your friends or relatives attend a church there? That is a good starting point. Many non-Catholic churches will rent out to non-members. They charge a lot more usually. (I attended, but was not a member of, the church I got married in. It cost us $600. Had I been a member it would have only cost about $50-$100.)
If you are currently members of a church, then that usually means you are a member of the denomination, and therefore members of that denomination's church in your home town.
You need to book the church well in advance, and may have to have counseling sessions with the pastor and/or take marriage classes. One week is not enough time to find a church. We booked ours 2 1/2 months before the wedding, at barely got in.
I highly recommend picking up "Emily Post's Etiquette" and look at the wedding section. You don't need to follow everything, but it has a lot of really good ideas and time-lines.
2007-03-06 11:24:38 · answer #2 · answered by Uther Aurelianus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with above, there arent many who will do it if you arent a member of the church itself and even fewer that will do it if you arent of that religion.
It doesnt sound like either of your actually practice your religion, so its not important to one of you more to be married in one faith over the other, so I would say go with the church that one of you belong to thats more central to your reception location.
No matter what you will have to either go and ask in person or call on the phone and see what thier rules for weddings are and be prepared you might have to attend some sort of pre-wedding meetings, whether its pre-cana classes or just sessions with the minister to talk about certain things. But things vary from church to church so give them a call and see what they require.
Good luck
2007-03-06 11:19:25 · answer #3 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If neither one of u is particularily religious, why do u find it necessary to get married in a church? Why not get married somewhere that u both love.........like on the beach, or in a park. Outdoor weddings are some of the most beautiful weddings. Don't go with tradition, go with the best thing that "connects" with the two of u.
2007-03-06 11:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it would be really gross and hypocritical to pick a church just because it was pretty..... sheesh!
Normally, you would get married in the church of which you are a member, or one you are attending regularly.
Sounds like you will be off to the courthouse, or getting a jp - either of which would be much more appropriate in your circumstance of not being religious.
2007-03-06 17:02:10 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually to get married in a church one of you has to belong to that church...as far as I know you can't just pick a church because its pretty....you always have the option to get married outside in a park or if you live close enough, a beach.
2007-03-06 11:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by Soon2BMrsCarlson 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your not religious why would you get married in a church? not only that, we had to book our church a year in advance, they are very busy, you just can't call a week before and your in, and you have to belong to the church, when I was married in a Catholic church, I had to go to classes and had to do a three day retreat, and donate 5,000 dollars to the church, what a scam! and I had to promise to raise my children as catholics, so the church could pick their pockets as they grow up as well, it's not all it cracked up to be, it is a lot of work!! good luck.
2007-03-06 11:17:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Hard & Thick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you'll have to find a church that will allow it. Most churches require you to be a member to get married there. You will have to call around and ask, basically, if you can "rent" the church. My husband and I did that. Fortunately, we were allowed to use the most beautiful church in our town, for $250. It was worth it, and the Pastor's wife even offered to play piano for us. Good luck!
2007-03-06 12:14:49 · answer #8 · answered by skittles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on if the churches allow anyone that is not a member to use the church for weddings. You'll just have to ask around.
2007-03-06 11:15:27 · answer #9 · answered by Jeremiah's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most appropriate way is to pick a church where you at least know one or two members in good standing. This way they can introduce you to the officiate (clergy) and things won't be as akward. Keep in mind that you won't be able to marry in any Catholic church as you have to be Catholic or taking "classes" to convert.
2007-03-06 11:14:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋