I have just met this amazing guy and we have a lot in common. We have gone on a couple dates and I know its early but I see this turning into a good relationship. We are both 20 but the thing is he would be my first boyfriend. Pathetic, I know. Well obviously i havent had much experiance with men. I have kissed men but havent gone much further. Do I tell him I am a virgin and that this is my first relationship or will he think its weird? I want to go slow.
2007-03-06 03:08:09 · 32 answers · asked by katie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am a virgin and this is my first serious relationship.
Please go slow.
2007-03-06 03:11:17 · answer #1 · answered by uisignorant 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By all means, do go slow. You said here, yourself, you've only been on a few dates with him, so at this point, I don't think you owe him your life story. Just enjoy the process and if this does, indeed, progress into a good relationship, you will have to, at some point in time, tell him that you are a virgin, and proudly so. There are many young women reading this now who would give anything to be standing in your shoes, without the regret of squandering their virginity too early and with the wrong person. Too little experience is wayyyy better than toooo much. Slow is good.
2007-03-06 03:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You should wait till things get a bit more physical down the line.
Dont mention that hes your first bf otherwise he might feel under pressure to be perfect for you.
And if you two do want to have sex, then mention that you are a virgin, but only because you havnt felt comfortable enough with other men to have done the deed.
2007-03-06 03:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really an issue that you're a virgin unless you make it an issue.
Seeing as you are if you ever had sex it would hurt you ALOT and he'd have to be gentle. So maybe in that sense you should tell him. But only when the mood is right and if you're about to.
I think though you're thinking ahead too much. Don't make this an issue. You're not even going out yet.
2007-03-06 03:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by matty_boy1989 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell him yet, I mean, after only a couple of dates, it's not to that point, and if you want things to go slow, then just take things slow.
You'll know when the time is right to tell him, but IMO you should wait until a little farther into the relationship.
2007-03-06 03:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by paj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have just met this guy. There is no reason at this point to tell him anything about your sexual inexpierence. Get to know him, to know if he is "the one" or not. There is nothing "wrong" with bein a virgin at 20, I was until I was 19 and my daughter still is at 21 (she hasn't found anyone she want's to share that much of herself with). Just because a gilr has had more than one sex partner by the time she is 20 doesn't make her "expierenced" frankly in my book it makes her easy and undereducated about herself. You take care of yourself and there is nothing wrong with that. I'm not saying "save it until marriage" but save it until YOU are ready and the guy is the one you want to give it too.
2007-03-06 03:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it would be better if you surprised him if you decide to have sex with him. That way he will know he is the only one who has had sex with you and can't say he's not. But be carefull if you do tell him, he might now know what to do or say. Especially if he's experienced in sex. Because to some guys it just too much drama having sex with a virgin.
2007-03-06 03:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going slow i wouldn't tell him i am a virgin. if your relationship continues and he starts acting like he is going to ask you to go further just tell him that you are not having premarital sex, or that you are a virgin. do not rush into anything or be pressured into sex. most girls later wish that they had saved themselves for someone else. don't do anything until it is right for you.
he may already think that you are probably a virgin. i personally think 20 is too young to start a sexual relationship and i wish i had waited myself. sex confuses alot of things. women confuse sex with love and for many men (even ones that like you) it is just sex, or a way of communicating with your bodys.
My friends and i all lost our virginity to boys who turned out to be crushes, and not the men we eventually married.
2007-03-06 03:18:54 · answer #8 · answered by misse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, he should be able to respect that you are new to this kind of thing and should know to take his time. Its not pathetic either, people move at their own pace in their love life, no matter the speed everyone always finds someone.
2007-03-06 03:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by Juhboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he asks, be honest.
if sex comes up in conversation, be honest. he'll probably like and respect you even more. its not the end of the world, but before you guys are making out on a couch in the dark-he should know so it doesnt turn into an awkward situation.
2007-03-06 03:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by cryingtree1979 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, no. Protect yourself. Let it be a bonus later on.
When you know e's clean, and you've gonethrough the STD test jsut to play it off.
And you swear he's with no one else, and that he would ACTUALLY sitck aorund if by some chance the condom broke and you got pregnant.
2007-03-06 03:11:09 · answer #11 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋