I am 26weeks pregnant(after suffering a MC last year)and almost fed up w/my babys father. He spends money on everything else, but the baby that will be here in June. He agreed to car loan(which he did need a car), paying back a family member, and buys guitar amps, and singing lessons. I could go on and on here, lol. Oh and we live in his family house. Anyways, mine and his family has bought alot for the baby. But not a single thing has he got!! I have expressed how uncomfortable and upset that makes me feel, but no change. Because of being high risk, I havent work since finding out. Am I over-reacting?
2007-03-06 02:12:08 · 10 answers · asked by May-May`s mommy 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
NO DEAR i don't think so,did he want to have a baby? Or could he be trying to hide his fear of being a father by not acknowledging the baby so there for to him it is not real yet? Or is he just very immature and not ready to be a dad yet? you and him really need to sit down and talk this out,hopefully he will see where you are coming from best wishes and good luck
2007-03-06 02:38:20 · answer #1 · answered by Sunshine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are. If this is your first child then the man feels like he is loosing all his freedom. I take it that this was not planed and because of that he feels like his life is going to change majorly. Being that no one knows how you too feel about one another its hard to answer what his reasons are for buying all this stuff. He prob wants to get all the stuff he never had and or take a chance at what his dreams were when he was younger.
Being that you are 6.5 months pregnant your emotions are all about the baby now and when he goes out and gets something that is not for the baby you feel like he does not want to have any part of it. But for guys it does not hit them till the baby is born. Ya they see you grow and what not but it does not kick in till they see the baby for the first time.
It will be fine when the baby is born but just make sure that you don't go into credit card debt with buying all that stuff. Cuz paying interest for toys sux.
2007-03-06 10:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
not at all this baby means so much to you and you want your baby to have everything in this world. so when you see your babys daddy spending money on minor things when he could be spending i ton the baby it irratates you. It makes you feel like he doesn't even care that much about the baby even though im sure that isn't the case. also you need to remeber you are pregnant so you have some wierd hormones going on so your emotional and thats upsetting. I know you've tried to reason already with him, but try again. tell him that you just want the baby to have everything it can and that your getting upset because you feel like he isn't devoting so much to that. But just a heads up im sure the sooner it is to your delivery date (june), the more it will be realistic and his natural father instincts will start to come and he'll be more understanding that money needs to be spent rationally. best of luck with the pregnancy and the baby daddy. Be good.
2007-03-06 10:20:25 · answer #3 · answered by Sammi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset with your BF.... he should be putting forth all he can... not saying eh should use every penny he has.. but buying things for the child and then being able to say that he helped bring this child in his life.. besides just pulling his pants down... I am pregnant with my first child... and will be having him in a couple weeks (or less) and I am greatful my BF... is very responsible I am only 20 but we have both got our 2 bedroom place and got everything for the baby... he payys the rent and bills and groceries and I am worring about getting the stuff for the baby and I also have had help from my mom with getting some of the more expensive stuff... but even before we got our place together.. anything we bought for the baby we both paid half... and now that I am on maternity leave... money is alittle tighter.. but he still fully supports me.. and I am sooo greatful.... it should be equal.... are you putting money and things towards your new arrivial? well get back to me!!
Ash*
2007-03-06 10:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by mizzmommy2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not over-reacting.
Better resign yourself to the fact that you will be raising this baby alone. You cannot raise 2 babies. Let his Mother finish raising him.
Start planning for your future. Squirrel away money, think of job options, child care, etc.
Don't let him know, wait and see if he becomes responsible when the baby arrives. But always be prepared to go it alone. You will know when the time is right. Good Luck.
2007-03-06 10:20:39 · answer #5 · answered by Bizzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, you're not over-reacting. i went through the same thing with my baby daddy about 4 yrs ago and now we're getting married this summer. if you really believe that he loves you than you are going to have to put your foot down and let him know that what he's doing is wrong. when a man loves a woman, he'll change for the better if he thinks he's going to lose her. i hope this helps.
2007-03-06 10:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not over reacting, whya did you get pregnant again by this immature guy? Clearly he is in no way ready to be a father. Can't his parents confront him with you over this? Good luck to you and your baby, hope he becomes a stand up guy.
2007-03-06 10:21:37 · answer #7 · answered by Maria b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i would be upset to, he needs to take some responsibility, you cant do everything on your own , and even though his family helps you out, you cant count on there for everything.
2007-03-06 10:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by meg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think so..but wait till the lil guy is born.that's what i say.if he does the same then u should talk to him and make him understand.
2007-03-06 10:18:42 · answer #9 · answered by krissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
.yes i think you should be upset.
2007-03-06 10:23:21 · answer #10 · answered by lee k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋