Is he going off me ? or just cant be bothered?

Question

I'm always making an effort while at work to show my bf attention txtin him naughty messages or just a nice i love u simple txt....he just never txts anything bk or sumtimes its just yeah love u 2. Am i doin sumthing worng here?? we've been together 3 yrs live together too he's fine with me when its face to face i just dont understand y he dont wanna show some love durin the day with a naughty message like i do :S

Answer 1

well, maybe your bf is working at the moment and doesn't really have the time to text you. Besides, considering that he replies you, the conversation might get longer and longer till you 2 are really obsessed with it that you've all forgotten about work. Men are like this, they tend to focus on their job and routines during working hours.

I'm having a relationship now too. And when my gf text me "i love you", i would do exactly the same as what your bf did. It's bcoz there's no other better words to really express our feelings as sincerely as this. It's as easy as "I LOVE YOU" =D Think about it, if your bf is talking sweet stuff, would he be doing that to cover up smtg?

He'll be searching for you wildly after work, to relax his mind, to share his day with you, to complain about his boss etc. The fact that he's being fine when u 2 are together is because he really loves u and he feels free to do anything, to do everything without restrictions in front of you. He feels zero stress when he dates you compared to his working life during daytime.

Try to enjoy the moment when you 2 have each other. Put aside all the question marks and make all your memories as sweet as possible =D

Good Luck

Answer 2

Lads like a girl who's independent and has her head screwed on. They don't appreciate girls who depend on them for validation all the time jus like us girls wouldn't appreciate a bloke txtin every min of the day. How needy n clingy would that b?? Why do you need to txt im every five mins when you 2 live together and see eachother every single day. If you back off an let him do the txtin you'd prob see a better response babes. Jus try it an see! Good luck x x x

Answer 3

I'd cool off the texts if I were you.....it might just make him sit up and surprise him if they reduce rapidly. If you're too full on, it leaves nothing to the imagination. He may also resent the constant need for attention by you - you are his partner but there are other people and things in his life.

Answer 4

i knw in my job its unprofessional to use my phone whilst with my patients maybe your bf cant use it or if he is anything like my hubby hates using the mobile. he is in the army when he goes away im lucky if i hear from him in one day because he hates txting me on the other hand txt him all the time when im not at work or on a break lol it could be just that try asking him if your honest with how you feel then he may feel he can be honest with you.

Answer 5

Perhaps he's working too. Maybe he hasn't got time and will lose his job if he spends time on personal stuff.
Especially as you live together, you both need to have time separate (including texting) from each other both in work and outside work. It will make your time together more precious.
Be careful he doesn't start to think you are too possessive.

Answer 6

Ask him!

We don't know.

Maybe he does not like that sort of thing.

He is the only one that will give you the answer you need to hear. If you have been with him this long then the communication lines should be open enough for you to talk to him about anything.

Answer 7

ok try this dont txt him when he's at work the rest of this week unless he txts you then bet at the end of the week he will say you haven't txt me this week why not and just say then because you txt im before and he just dingies you so you wont bother him anymore, then i bet next week he wiill be the one txt you at work to get your attention, youve got to know how to work a man's head there weird sometimes.

Answer 8

work is work, require a lot of attentions and professionals. you 2 live together, be together, how much attention you need from him? If i were a guy, i would feel so annoyed that my gf still interrupt my work from time to time even though she sees me everyday....please cool off, and give him the professional time he needed.

Answer 9

Because some people just don't feel comfortable expressing their feelings unless it's face to face. If he's fine with youwhen you're together then don't worry about it.

Answer 10

if its fine face to face then its fine. He could be busy doing other things and doesn't have time to write back lengthy messages.