I have a family problem !?

Question

Dear friends ! Recently i am finding it hard to stay in my home . I completed my studies & was trying to prepare 4 upcoming competetive exams. But i feel like my parents do not care . Its true indeed & i have trouble expressing myself to them . My dad always hated me from the very beginning & i even had to take a counselling for sorting this problem.I am feeling so miserable sometimes i feel like suicide is the best way . When the ones like your own parents are like this what about others. I am completely ashamed of the fact that i had to go & meet a counsellor for solving my problem.But i cannot tell my problems to anyone as no one would ever belive this . My parents are viewed as the ideal couples yes they are but never the best parents . I do not have any grandparents to seek advice for .So please do help me that what i can do to live peacefully without carrying the emotional baggage.

Answer 1

Take pride in your own accomplishments. It hurts when parents seemingly do not take an interest in what you are doing. I having been in the classroom as an instructor have seen it many times.

Do the best you can always and it will pay off eventually for you, not for anyone else. Be your own person. Study hard and learn from life's experiences. You sound to me like a young person who just might go somewhere in life. Will it be easy? No, life isn't easy. It will kick you when you are down and try to make you not desire to make a change. But do make that change, decide to be the absolute best you can at what you do. Set some goals for your self that you can accomplish then as you reach those goals set harder ones and accomplish them.

You are only with your parents a few years actually then you can be on your own. Make a difference in your life and maybe someday you can make a difference in someone else's.

Good luck and keep up the good work! I like to hear of young people like you that want to study hard and make something good of their lives!

Answer 2

Feeling lost and alone is bad enough. Biut feeling lost and alone, and not having your parents as well, can be tough. You seem like a very intelligent, and strong willed person.You should never feel ashamed abou the fact that you had to go see a counsler to try and resolve your troubles, that's what they are for.They are there to listen to you, and do whatever they can to help. You're not alone. You are never alone. God is always with you! And eventhough we may never understand it, he has a reason for everything that he does. You are probably wondering why it had to be you, or what did you do to be punished with parents such as yours? Well, the answer is nothing! You are not being punished for anything! What happens to you in life while you are young, only prepares you for the future. Your life right now seems empty, and cold. Maybe that is a part of a life lesson that will assist you in the future. You are going through a time in your life right now that you are unhappy in,that makes you feel like you shouldn't even bother any more! You feel like no one cares, like no one recognizes what you do or how much you do care. Well, no matter how frustrating it gets or how much you want to give up, don't. The last thing that you want to do is bring yourself down to your parents' level! The last thing you want to do is show your parents that thye are right! That you can't do it without them, or that you are never going to amount to anything! Prove then wrong! Keep up your studies, make something of yourself! Show them that they are wrong! And someday when you move out and get married and have your own children,you can show them what good parenting is all about. show them that no matter how involed or not involved they were, or how much they did or didn't support you or believe in you.... that you still made something of yourself. Don't let them, or anyone bring you down! Set goals for yourself, and accomplish every last one of them, with or without your parents!!

Answer 3

First of all, please try to be proud that you went for help!
There are people who would not have braved their fears of stigmas associated with it long enough to actually do the right thing.
I'm so sorry to hear this. I have parents who are very lost in their own crap, and now I have become one.
Please, understand, this is NOT your fault-
and it's NOT their intention.
You will need to get some distance betwen you and them before you can get it together and find compassion and forgiveness for them- they don't even have to know you've found it, but it will lighten your heart.
You have some years to go before you can do this, but hang in there!
Maybe you will be a parent. Maybe you will do much better, or maybe you will have a hard itme.
But at least, you will know to get back in therapy and be the best you can be, and set a good example for your child.
Or you may have no kids, but be happier once you are away from them.
Be you, be beautiful, be hopeful.
There's this song, "Hold on, when you feel like letting go", etc.
And this part about Your mother left, your father beats you, etc.
But hold on, it's gets better than you know.
And we all feel the same way that you do, and we all have the same things to go through.
You'll be OK.

Answer 4

In this age all r in emotional and you r not out of them. I belive no parents r like that u r saying its just ur imagination. I was in that situation before but i overcome at last. And i wish u too. Dont try to see them in against you but try you best to maintain with them and soon u can find they r very good for you. But if at last you cant do it then u must need to live alone for some month in the hostel or dorm or like that. I wish it will help you to understand your parents.

Answer 5

Sweetheart keep studying and work hard to better yourself economically so one day you'll be able to move out on your own.Sometimes parents are not objective and they can be unreasonable,and critical at times.I really truly believe that you should sit with them and tell them what you feel.I know this is not easy especially if you have parents that think they know it all.I don't know your age or living circumstances but you need to speak to someone (adult)that you can trust and open you heart to.Maybe a family member or a school counselor.You can also e-mail me if you need a person to listen to and give advice.Good luck and please NEVER ever hurt yourself because you will one day be someone who will be able to help someone like yourself that is going through something and needs help.Believe me there are some of us who care.Be strong sweetie.

Answer 6

if right what you are saying they don't care about you and you already had to seek counselling because of your father they sound pretty messed up, you can pick your friends but not your family move on babes sod em get good decent friends i have spoken to my parents for years and i have a much healthier better life without all the baggage good luck and all the best :)

Answer 7

I think it might be a good idea to let them know how you are feeling-maybe you have been that busy studying,you feel alone- I dont know your family situation eg wether you have any brothers or sisters aunties or friends you could confide in.But you need to talk to someonestart with your parents

Answer 8

suicide is never the answer, you should move out and start your own family. just because your parents are like that doesn't mean every one is!