hmm, we both have been good friends from our childhood, we both stay in different cities.3 years ago we decided that we should marry. but sometimes he acts suspecious, i feel like he was in love with his classmate in collgee, but she got married.... i fell there is feeling for each other, i came to know this, when i accidentaly saw her msgs in his phn......i am not very sure of things going.... plz advice me knw how i should deal with this........
2007-03-06 01:55:41 · 16 answers · asked by putta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you need to get to the bottom of this and find out if they are still in love. You need to ask him yourself and he needs to be honest with you and tell you how he feels for her. If he says he doesnt than you need to either believe him and marry him, or you can walk away if your gut feeling is telling you that hes lying. If he tells you that he does have feelings for her still. Than this wedding needs to be put on hold. And that he needs to work out his feelings till he can totaly commit to you and to you only. If you just ignore this problem it will only hurt yous later in life. So get to the truth and dont marry him till his feelings for this other girl is gone.
2007-03-06 03:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say take a step back and evaluate the situation.
What was the tone of the text messages. If he is still expressing strong feelings for this other woman than you need to put this wedding on hold.
Sounds like dude is settling for you. He is marrying you because the woman he really wants is unavailable. You will forever live in suspicion and fear if you marry this man. And what happens if she becomes available again. Are you ready to be dumped for the woman he really wants?
Think about it girl and talk to the man. Deep down in your heart you know how he really feels about you. If you cannot rest easy in the assurance that he is head over heels in love with you than you should not marry him. Sorry and good luck.
2007-03-06 10:24:31 · answer #2 · answered by Deez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is clear, but do you want to hear it? You have suspicions and you should not consider marrying this man. Its fine that he has feelings for his college classmate, bravo! But why are they talking when she is married? More importantly, what are they talking about? You're wondering, too, which is why you're here posing a question. Get real with him. If he has unresolved feelings for this woman, you don't need them in your marriage, no matter how long you've been friends. A best friend will tell you the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, and you deserve it.
2007-03-06 10:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him unless you are definately in love, & you trust him completely. Otherwise you will regret your decision, & have a terrible marriage, which will probably end in divorce.
It doesn't sound like you are head over heels in love. Why would you settle for less than you deserve?
Honestly.... why do some people get married, just because they think they need to be with someone?
2007-03-06 10:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by mrauscher74 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you marrying your friend?
Friends are for friendship, not for life long marriage comittment.
If you think he loves someone else then he probably does. Why do you want to limit yourself like this, dont you wnat to find someone you love and loves you in return.
What if you find the perfect someone when you get married to your friend...this sounds like a recipe for disaster or a bet...give this some time and then decide if it is a good idea.
2007-03-06 10:02:19 · answer #5 · answered by salsabrunette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him if he is still in love with this woman from college. If you know him well enough to marry him then you might know if he's being honest with you. Another thing is if he is still in love , why would he be engaged to you.
2007-03-06 10:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by Simply_Patricia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's always a good idea, play safe and marry your best friend from childhood. Not.
2007-03-06 10:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by fatherf.lotski 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always trust your gut instincts. When in doubt, back away. There may not be anything "going on", but if that thought is in your head now it probably isn't going to leave. You will always be looking over your shoulder.
2007-03-06 10:03:41 · answer #8 · answered by kj 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call her up and ask her.Ask him.And only get married for love not because your best friends.Sorry if that sounds hard, I don't ,mean to be.
2007-03-06 09:58:40 · answer #9 · answered by mother hen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only way to deal with it is to ask him. If he is your best friend as you state then you discuss it with him openly and honestly - you both deserve that.
Good luck
2007-03-06 09:59:04 · answer #10 · answered by his temptress 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋