Hey, I started dating this girl about 5 months ago. I fell in love with her and she wouldn't give me the time of day. But I kept trying and we fell very much in love. Well the past month or so I haven't felt that spark. She is doing everything right but I just can't feel it. I still love her very much and I want to be with her but I can't, not like this. Where did I go wrong and how can I fix it.
2007-03-06 01:35:29 · 13 answers · asked by ems_lover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You don't HAVE to be with her, ya know? If you're not feeling it, don't force it.
2007-03-06 01:48:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not just an emotion, dear, it is a committment. Feelings are so fleeting and circumstances change like the weather. What you may have experienced might have just been the excitement of falling in love. Let's face it; it's fun! In a mature relationship, you see the feelings come and go, but you can absolutely fall in love with the same person over and over again, at times when you least expect it. Are you doing your best to keep things fresh and even romantic? Try something new together. See her in a new light. Most of all, remember the reasons you fell in love with her in the first place. Examine them. I wonder how deeply your love for her really runs if you're already questioning your feelings after only five months. Don't expect stars and fireworks every day of your life; that just isn't reality. There is a lot to be said for the steady and true, the sweet and comfortable. Find a balance in all things. Best wishes
2007-03-06 09:47:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay. here's the thing. we all get a little bored from time to time with our relationships. And it doesn't always mean we want out. So, if you really want to save the relationship, try something new, or go somewhere different!!! Be a romantic and leave something in her mailbox, that only she would understand. Act like you don't have her love yet, and your trying to win it. These little things could easily bring back that little spark. And it might just come back with time. You could just be worried.
Good luck!
2007-03-06 09:43:58 · answer #3 · answered by Linka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
Sometimes, when you get something easily, its value lessens in one's eyes.
You are taking the r'ship for granted now. happens all the time.
ask urself these quest:
1. when someone at home gives you/used to give you INSTRUCTIONS , what would ur reaction be?
A. quietly obey
B. hate it?
2. the last expensive thing you purchased, ur car or bike or a fancy gadget...
A. do u cherish it with all ur heart?
B. okay, its there. you knew you would have bought it at one time or the other?
if ur answers are more inclined towards B, its nothing serious, the spark is all there, only some fanning of the embers is required.don't worry. try to read up NEGATIVISTIC attitude in psychology.
if ur answers are more towards A, then gently break up with her, but don't let her get heart.remember, you loved her once...
all the best!
2007-03-06 09:52:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't go wrong anywhere....and you can't fix something like this...If the spark is gone it's gone......You might love her and want to be with her...But if your not feeling it anymore that would just be leading her on.....Take some time apart....I'm not saying break up...Just take a break and see how you feel without her...GOOD LUCK<3
2007-03-06 09:39:46 · answer #5 · answered by HelpMe123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get comfortable with a person. You always lose the spark. That dont mean there is no love.
Be in love.
2007-03-06 09:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by CG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a choice. The emotional feelings will come and go, but if you chose to love her, you will. Do you still enjoy being with her? If so, you have gone past the first infatuation and instead of being in love with her, you truly love her.
2007-03-06 09:40:30 · answer #7 · answered by janejane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like the thrill of chasing something you can't have....or someone who keeps shrugging you off. Its a personality trait. That "spark" was attaining what you were chasing. Now you've got it, no more chasing, "spark", gone.
2007-03-06 09:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by Brian H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me && my ex have this problem together && he broke up w/ me b/c he knew i was hurting depp inside b/c i knew he didn't feel the same was && i was trying so hard to keep our love alive. && after we broke u i dated around && i relaized that i couldn't have what i had w/ him w/ anyone else, so we stared tlaking again && we fell in love once more! so hold on tight!
but for me && my ex...i left him...we had more prblems in our past relationship && now im w/ my new boyfriend, Jason. I love him so much && now my ex is spreding rumors about me!
2007-03-06 09:44:13 · answer #9 · answered by 18 weeks pregnant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would say talk to her about it, but that might make her upset.. so give it time, if you still dont feel the "spark" then maybe its not right.
2007-03-06 09:39:10 · answer #10 · answered by Amber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's common with a lot of people it's like the thrill of the chase.....Once you got her, now you don't want her!
2007-03-06 09:40:51 · answer #11 · answered by Karen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋