hiya im a bit scared that my boyfriend is going to leave me, over the weekend i told him i didnt trust him he told me this hurt him really badly and we need to have a serious chat about it tonite, im really scared that he is going to finish with me. i have said sorry and that i didnt mean to say what i did, but its still going through my mind now hellllpppp!!! what do you think??
2007-03-06 01:31:28 · 14 answers · asked by sexy_chick_148 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
not nesceasarily. listen to the words, " if we are going to be together it is important that we have mutual trust between each other" or "if you dont trust me we really dont need to be together" if he's guilty, your going to see it. guilty people say screw it and run away. if a guilty person doesnt run, they are still interested in you and may be a little concerned that you are going to dump them. or the guilty person is trying to see if they can still attract to someone new. it sounds like there may be a fear of commitment. maybe he wants to commit and is just trying to get it out of his system before he "marries". i really dont think he's going to dump you so just tell him the fear that you might have. " i love you deeply, and loosing you would surely hurt me the point i could not bare to feel again" " i need to know that you love me as deeply as i love you, and sometime i feel like maybe your love is'nt as deep as mine and my feeling get a little hurt."
2007-03-06 01:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by cmooredr2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you keep putting out he probably wont leave you. if you dont trust him, why do you want to be with him anyway. Find another guy and start over again with trust, you gave the guy a chance and sounds like he blew it, although he will make up a sob story to stay on your good side.
2007-03-06 09:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by rand a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well trust is a HUGE thing in a realtionship and saying you didn't trust him probably did hurt him pretty bad....Just cause he is going to have a serious talk with you doesn't mean he is going to leave you....But it could happen...Just stay calm...(which i know is hard) and just take whatever comes...cause if its not meant to be then it isn't going to last...and if it is then you have nothing to worry about.......GOOD LUCK<3
2007-03-06 09:35:49 · answer #3 · answered by HelpMe123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time you started looking for a new boyfriend. If you didn't trust him, you must have a reason to think so. If he was truly innocent, he would have had a sincere talk with you and discussed why you don't trust him and he would have set the record straight.
2007-03-06 09:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by notadeadbeat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing, follow your gut!!!! If you dont trust him, YOU DONT TRUST HIM!!!! ANd dont try to dress it down b/c he got upset by the comment. I would def seat down and talk to him about this and be honest about it. Let him know, how you are feeling without making it seem as though you are so worried about him leaving.....NEVER give a man that POWER!!!! But play it cool, relax and just talk to him. You can even seat down and jot down some notes, just to make sure that you say everything you need to about this.....then once you have talked about it....move on!! Good Luck!!
2007-03-06 09:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you don't trust him, he SHOULD leave you. Why would you say that if you didn't mean it? Trust is the foundation for a good relationship and if you don't have that, you have nothing. If you said it and didn't mean it, he can't trust YOU now.
2007-03-06 09:35:51 · answer #6 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't trust him? You need to ask yourself why. Is it something he did? something he said? It would be dishonest to to address it and immature to ignore it. You and he will feel much better if you get it out in the open. Talk with him about it. If you can't be honest with him, then why should he trust you?
2007-03-06 09:36:02 · answer #7 · answered by J F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont trust the guy then you shouldnt be with him anyways because if you dont have trust then the relationship will never work in the end, or maybe he just want to justify his self by earning your trust somehow, could go either way
2007-03-06 09:36:01 · answer #8 · answered by bshelby2121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really meant it, don't be sorry. you need to explain to him that it's just the way you feel and feelings aren't facts. you can't help the way you feel, no one can and eveyone has a right to their feelings. i wouldn't worry so much if it's meant to be it will and if not you'll find someone better. and if he breaks up with you over something so stupid then he's not worth it anyway.
2007-03-06 09:36:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just want to talk about what is bothering you and why you dont trust him
2007-03-06 09:35:20 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋