I like this guy alot. He seems really great. He is a wonderfull father which is awsome because I have a child too. And I think its sexy. Anyway latley he has been having alot of problems with alot of overwhelming things. He says it might not be me but he has been very pessimistic latley. I call him and I get accused of being clingy. I try to invite him over to de stress and he refuses. I offer advice and he just says he needs to solve his own problems. I offer to help and he once again says he needs to solve his own problems. I want to be a freind and I am just trying to help. Why does he keep refusing? and he says he likes me and I have been in his bed so its obviouse and I dont need to question it but how am I not supposed to? and if he likes me then why is he refusing my offers for help?
2007-03-06 01:23:39 · 11 answers · asked by moonlitocean2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok so everyone knows we have not had sex. Grrrr why does everyone assume that everyones having sex these days!??? theres another question Ill ask. and he said that if I have been in his bed I should be confident he likes my and he is on his way to see a shrink
2007-03-06 01:33:19 · update #1
This guy sounds like he has serious issues going on.
I hate to say it, but when someone is like this, the only thing you can do is stand back and let him deal with it on his own. If he needs consolation, be a friend.
I would cut out the sex, because the last thing you need is to become emotionally involved with a guy. You also don't want to have his baby.
Good luck.
P.S. To reply to your addition: If you say, I have been in his bed, people will assume that means sex. Please be a little clearer when you say things like that.
2007-03-06 01:28:52 · answer #1 · answered by Average Joe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, it seems that he is just a bit independent. he is used to doing things on his own the last who knows how long, and so he might not be ready for someone to help. Things like that take time. Thats all. He is a little stressed, and a bit uptight, but if you give him just a tad bit of space, I think he will unwind and see that you are really just trying to help him out.
If I were you, I would give him a call. Tell him how much you care for him, and that you want to help. Then tell him, I am here when you are ready to come to me, and I am sorry if I pushed too much.
This way, he will see that your letting him have his independance, but that you are ready to step in when needed!
Good luck, and I hope it all works out!
2007-03-06 01:31:02 · answer #2 · answered by Linka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing just because you have been in his bed doesn't mean he like's you on the other hand some people have problem's that they need to deal with themselve's. Maybe you are trying to hard to help and you should back down until he get's wahtever is bothering him figured out . Give him some space and if you two have anything, thing's will work out.
Good Luck
2007-03-06 01:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I take it that you are only friends with this guy. With his answers to your questions it appears he could be in a financial 'pinch' and feels insecure, therefore that could explain his behavior. Or, he could have gotten sick and needs time by himself. The worst that could happen, especially if you are in love with him, is he may be sensing marriage and doesn't want to at this point. This will make him stay away and do something else. Even if you both had gotten intimate. I think you get the picture.
2007-03-06 01:38:00 · answer #4 · answered by Yafooey! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE'S A MAN......thats why!! Thats what someof them do. One thing I learned is that a man needs to feel like they are a man and do things for themselves, no matter how insane or how much you want to help them. If he says that he wants to handle his own problems....let him!!! If you keep pushing him to talk and he is not ready too, you will loose him. Let him get himself together and just back off. Stop calling as much, just to see if he realizes. Or just give him the chance to come to you. He keeps refusing b/c he does not want your help. And dont feel bad about it, just except that he wants to do it on his own. Just focus on something else. He may still like you, but dear, he is a man......
Peace!
PS As for the sex part, if I were you, I would stop having sex. B/c to you, it seems like he likes you....but for him, its may just be good coochie and what man does not LIKE good coochie.....think about it. It does not mean that he likes you.
2007-03-06 01:30:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that is a normal thing for man to behave like that.They are just trying to maintain his superior and dare say their ego. my advice is maybe u should give him sometimes. But at the same time u could tell him that u will always be there for him.
2007-03-06 01:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by nizzy dizzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he dont like u in a realationship way he is using u to get what he wants not giving u what u r looking for he need a bed friend not a person in his life he is tring to tell u what he wants but u dont want to see it for what it is u want love and he want sex
2007-03-06 01:32:40 · answer #7 · answered by ann k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's stressed out and HE WANTS SPACE. Is that something that women can't understand? Leave him alone for awhile, until he's feeling better.
2007-03-06 01:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by bladeshaven 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Buy the book, "He's just not that into you." And read it. You'll find your answer there. Here's a link on amazon.
http://www.amazon.com/Hes-Just-That-Into-Understanding/dp/068987474X
2007-03-06 01:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by annie bananny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hes crazy and you both need to fuxk wildly till dawn and then it'll all be okay
2007-03-06 01:29:05 · answer #10 · answered by Metalup87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋